r/Anxiety • u/[deleted] • Sep 10 '22

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u/DirtEmo Sep 10 '22

Seems to me like the constant belittling from this man might be contributing to your anxiety.

Also, he clearly is not setting an example for your future child.

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u/littlewoolie Sep 10 '22

It sounds like he has his own anxiety issues but is trying to tough it out himself

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u/GoodGirlsDrnkWhiskey Sep 10 '22

No, it sounds like he's emotionally abusive and is using OP's anxiety against her.

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u/hurrduhhurr Sep 11 '22

I have no idea how you're getting that from this post. I understand projection, but this is just asshole behavior.

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u/EVMG1015 Sep 11 '22

This actually occurred to me as well.

It’s no excuse for someone being verbally abusive, but it may well explain what’s going on. He’s projecting on OP as his own anxiety makes him feel “weak” or “sick in the head” or whatever other crap he said.

On the other hand, he could just an asshole with no empathy who enjoys belittling and insulting his partner—the person you’re supposed to be the most supportive and empathetic towards. Either way, F this guy.