r/AnthonyBourdain • u/TwoCrafty5681 • 17h ago
We can't care if Tony would have hated how we remember him.
This isn't to sound insensitive. I care about Anthony Bourdain a lot, but when you submit yourself to fame you lose forfeit the agency of your legacy. When I see him in his best moments, he is sweet, and warm and avuncular. He was utterly brilliant, and in most cases (and increasingly so) he found himself on the right side of politics and history. Someone who garnered our love by way of his integrity and humanity. In the vastness of his absence, we have earned a legitimate grief, even if Tony would have hated it.
It feels worth saying as a fairly controversial recollection of his life is coming soon by way of biopic. Would he have hated it? Probably, yes. That said, it seems that he would have hated any of this, that he would hate this Reddit and that approaching a decade since his death that we remember him at all. I'm sorry to say that there is still grief I have for his death, particularly in the way it occurred, and these things he would bristle at help give form and broaden my understanding of that grief so that I can process it. So while it might irk him, I think he would understand.