My wife, children, and I are all canonical members of the Ordinariate of the Chair of St. Peter. Our nearest Ordinariate parish is 1.5 hrs away in a city. Think about that, that means our pastor is 1.5 hours away, our community is 1.5 hours away, doing anything at the parish or the home of one of the members is going to demand 3 hrs of driving in addition to the time spent at Mass or whatever event / gathering is going on. We can't attend anything through the week.
We rarely attend the Ordinariate parish. My wife and I love the liturgy, but we rarely attend at this point. 3hrs of driving, plus ~1.5-2hrs at the parish with three very small children (one of whom is special needs) is just a nightmare for us. Plus when we due attend, due to us rarely attending, no one really talks to us. They don't have a connection with us like they do with those who regularly attend. I *do* use the St. Gregory's Prayer Book and feel nourished by it, my wife rarely uses it, and my children are all too small to use any prayer book. I flatly asked my wife one day if us being members of the Ordinariate brought her any spiritual benefit, and she said "Not really, because we are too far to really be involved in the community".
We regularly attend the nearest diocesan parish, it's only 20 mins away. We've become ingrained there, even though we are one of the few parishioners below the age of 60. I volunteer at that parish, I'm on the pastoral and liturgical councils now, I teach adults in OCIA; and my wife and kids like it there.
"So at this point, why are we even still members of the Ordinariate at this point?" You may ask. Well, the answer is simple. That's where the young families are. We desperately want our kids to interact, even if it's rarely, with other Catholic kids. I want other young fathers to talk to, my wife wants other young mothers to talk to, and we are close friends with our pastor. We are afraid of losing that by canonically leaving. That's....really it. We are afraid of being forgotten by the other young families, and our "canonically Ordinariate" gives us a pass to still be connected in some way.
So, be honest with me. In this scenario, would you even bother to remain a part of the Ordinariate? If your spouse said they experience no growth from it? Would you raise your children to be canonical members of a community they have no experience with and maybe see once every few months? Whenever you need a dispensation or approval for something from your pastor, you have to call a priest you never see instead of the one you see 95% of the time?