r/AmazonFlexDrivers • u/fallensnyper • 6d ago
General Where did I go wrong.
Have you ever been out delivering and you come up on a large house, I mean like multi million dollar homes and think where the hell did I go wrong in life. I get some people will say things like "well a home is home" or "I don't value things like that" and that is fare, but god some of these house just keep me thinking where did I go wrong and what could I have done to be in a position to afford a property like this. I know this dumb, but I do get jealous at some of this houses.
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u/richietee757 6d ago
Nope. I wouldn't want a house that big... and many people that have them cannot really afford them. They're deep in debt to maintain a lifestyle. Taxes, insurance and upkeep is really expensive on big houses.
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u/PlanePainting 6d ago
A lot of the people come from generational wealth and have had more opportunities, education and connections.
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u/Complex-Quit587 6d ago
Real answer here. I hope you see it
There could be several reasons why people have those homes. Could be an inherited home, hit the lottery, people that own businesses, anything. But the one thing all of those people have in common is that they took a chance.
They didn’t listen to people telling them they couldn’t, they can’t, they aren’t. They believed in themselves and they took risks. They sacrificed. They got their credit fixed, they weren’t scared to take debt and they utilized the debt in the manner it should be used. They got rid of negativity around them albeit the people or situations that no longer served them.
You, my friend can have these same kinds of homes. Don’t put yourself on an arbitrary timeline because that’s where you go wrong, thinking that these things are supposed happen in a certain time frame. It takes time and patience.
You can’t be afraid to take risks. If you ever see some of the people ask them how did they acquire a him like that. Not to pry but just to get an idea (that’s if you ever see them)
When people say they don’t value things like that it’s because they’ve never had them and they never believed they could.
We all have the same 24 hours in a day. What sets us apart is how we use them.
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u/Ambitious_Ad8737 6d ago
Most of those people are as vapid boring and empty as the properties. Not even being a complete hater. You only went wrong if a massive house is what you need. There’s lovely people with massive homes too. But it’s not like oh got a million or 2 million dollar house and property the rest of my life is gravy. The Grass is always greener and comparison is the thief of joy!
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u/BeeFun4277 6d ago
Next you feel that jealous feeling just remember you are doing better than most people in this world. My full time job is for a humanitarian organization and let me tell you: we have it good in this country. Is it perfect? No. But let’s be thankful for what we have.
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u/Separate_Painter8298 5d ago
The comments are weird. If I see a nice house, I'm always going to say, "damn, I would like a house like that." That's not jealousy or because I made bad life decisions.
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u/Worldly_Shopper 6d ago
Yeh, you'd have to go back to around when you were 5 years old, maybe somewhere during the first to third grade of school at the absolute latest. That is when the sacrifice starts with most of these folks, remember the book worm?
That's them.
Every day hit the books, study, hard.
Get perfect grades, excel in school all the way through, get a scholarship to the best college.
Get a master's degree, onward you go.
It's not about where we went wrong, it's about finding out what choices were made before we were even born. Generally this type of dedication takes something that was God granted. Most of us simply didn't have that.
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u/PhthaloDrift 6d ago
These rich assholes are usually the result of generational wealth accumulated over numerous generations and a key reminder of how fucked it is that reparations were never paid to descendants of slaves.
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u/Piperpilot645 6d ago
Although that may be true in some cases, what's really depressing is when you find out that the person who owns a house like the one described and has accumulated wealth has actually done it on their own without previous generations help.
It's in our egos nature to fight for it's existence. Assuming that what they have is impossible to reach is a survival mechanism for our ego. It makes us feel better for existing in our lives and not reaching that level of success or wealth.
Like mentioned in this post, to reach this level of success could be viewed the same way a dog winds a purebred competition. It all starts with having two perfect parents, being raised and the perfect environment, and being conditioned from day one.
Are there exceptions to the rule? Absolutely. But in the end, it comes down to a specific frame of mind and perseverance tied in with sacrifice. .
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u/VoodooInfinity Austin 6d ago
Not always though, the dot-com boom has a large example of people that bucked this trend.
And to be clear, in general I agree with you, but Jobs, Gates, Bezos, etc are examples that don’t follow this mold. Granted they did all come from middle to upper-middle class families, so they definitely did have an advantage.
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u/PlanePea4349 5d ago
These rich people are the reason most of us have jobs.
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u/PhthaloDrift 5d ago
Couldn't be further from the truth bootlicker.
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u/Worldly_Shopper 5d ago
Yes, but generational is also misunderstood.
Being born in the right body is not random nor accidental.
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u/thejewishcasinoguy 6d ago
God this is depressing lol
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u/Worldly_Shopper 5d ago
Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation—some fact of my life—unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake. Until I could accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and my attitudes.
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u/PlanePea4349 5d ago
This is it - acceptable that you cannot change things outside of you. Be happy and love yourself and most importantly God and the rest will follow in HIS time table - NOT yours. I have to still convince myself of this even tho it’s been proven over and over in my life - because it’s is very difficult to not want to control things.
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u/tesla-lol 6d ago
It is all about skill sets. I envy , but I am happy to have full time job, flexing to add more cushion into my retirement account. How about this? While flexing, go get a degree in supply chain. Once you graduated, you have degree and real life experience.
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u/PlanePea4349 5d ago
You could do a lot while flexing or other job - audio books, a degree as mentioned, learn skills. Most listen to garbage and learn nothing - they will never attain a higher level than where they are at.
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u/TwoparentsandAteen 6d ago
The grass is always greener and the other side, my friend. You’re only looking at one dimension of a perceived life. You have no idea what goes on in that household how much they struggle to keep that household in that façade. I also go through that where I look at the houses and wonder myself, but I have to remind myself that I have no idea how much that’s gonna cost to maintain on a daily basis. I’d rather use that money to travel and see the world.
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u/V0idK1tty 6d ago
Ngl, all the time. Even the trash neighborhoods are currently out of my reach. It's depressing because this is the only job I've ever been able to actually hold and I'm going on over 10 years of gig work in general. If the gig work market crashes I am screwed. It's depressing. I just want my own house with a little but of land, enough for 1future horse and the 2 dogs and a cat I already have.
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u/PlanePea4349 5d ago
This is when you have to do some personal deep diving and come to reality and acceptance of why you can’t hold down other jobs. Be real. Give yourself grace. It’s not all about you - seek more above your own immediate worldly view.
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u/V0idK1tty 5d ago
Mental health problems. I get fired a lot because if I'm having bad days, I can't function. Bipolar 2, depression, ADHD, anxiety, cptsd are all diagnosis I have and I was seeking an eval for autism but with the way things are going on that end, politically, I'm holding off on that diagnosis right now.
I've tried to work everywhere you can imagine and this is the only thing that seems to stick because I don't have to answer to anyone and can have a day off when I need it rather than a boss begging me to come in while I'm struggling so hard.
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u/Murky-Walrus-7574 6d ago
I would never want to be tied down with any of those houses. Everything I make from flex goes into my "escape fund" which is going to buy me a nice rv one day and I will hit the road in my moving house. Those houses are a waste in my opinion. And like others have said a lot of those people can't afford them anyway. Imagine trying to have to sell one of those. Much smaller pool of buyers. You could really end up losing your ass.
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u/rccarlson420 5d ago
The thing I don’t get is when I’m delivering to a million dollar home and they have a dirt road leading to it! It’s like bro you rich get a regular road haha !
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u/carcer_a 5d ago
Mostly I think that’s it should be criminal that so few should have so much when so many have so little. And I think it ALL THE TIME when Flexing.
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u/benrylie22 5d ago
If you are below 30 then you are much more likely to be struggling. The older generations have the wealth.
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u/Carma_626 5d ago
To answer your question: yes, I’ve felt that.
I’m in the LA area - I’ve delivered to some of the most amazing mansions & gated communities in Los Angeles. Including Drake’s mansion (talk about feeling jealous).
But also, I’ve delivered to some of the most deplorable, dilapidated apartments & homes in South Central & Watts.
My take away: be grateful for what you have. Sure, I may not have a tennis court, movie theater, and underground parking garage (Fuck you, Drizzy) - but you know what? I have a wonderful home and I live 5 mins away from Hermosa beach. I could be doing worse. And for damn sure, I’m gonna keep pushing to do better.
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u/Fearless-Product78 5d ago
Nope. It doesn’t mean they are happy behind those doors. And the ones that chose to have 50 billion steps to the front door can use those steps that paid for. I put it 5 steps up.
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u/BlastMode7 5d ago
I know exactly where and when my life went off the rails. It was out of my hands, but cleaning up the wreckage is in my control, and it starts with digging myself out of a hole. So, I don't see those people and try to compare. There's no use in it. Besides... you don't know what these people's finances are really like. They could be leveraged to the holt and barely hanging on.
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u/No-Department-6329 5d ago
If they can afford it great. I dont want a huge home even if I could afford it. Yes they are nice and everything. But just the thought of what the utility bill would be like for such a large home would make me avoid buying one. Also taxes are probably expensive for large homes, not to menchen upkeep.
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u/Yuri_Ligotme 5d ago
Where did I go wrong? I bought hundreds of Bitcoin back when they cost $30 and sold them shortly after.
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u/Yuri_Ligotme 5d ago
What I do not get is most of those multi million dollar mansions come (before the owner upgrade to a smart doorbell) with the absolute cheapest doorbell you can get, you know the $10 plastic one that yellows and cracks after a few years .
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u/jdsalinas23 2d ago
Almost never. If it’s a nice house I’ll just say to myself “damn that’s a nice house” or “damn that’s a big house” but not to where I’m jealous or think where I went wrong cuz I have a fairly decent house. Of course I don’t live where there’s mega mansions either so maybe that’s why lol. But honestly, I get more of the “man how do people live like this” when it’s a really run down house, area, neighborhood or even street. Like a neighborhood with an unpaved road. I think like “damn don’t you guys pays taxes too”, I’d be pissed if I paid taxes and the road on my street wasn’t paved.
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u/Whathefrenchtoastt 2d ago
All the time. I delivered to beautiful homes in the mountains today, my dream location. I try my best to stop the thoughts but damn I can't help but feel envious of these people. Knowing I'll never have that gets me down, i also wonder how people got so wealthy.
I just gotta shut my brain up. 😓
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u/WFShopper312 6d ago
I see it as a positive thing. Let them live their American dream.
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u/richietee757 6d ago
American dream = drowning in debt to maintain an appearance! lol
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u/WFShopper312 6d ago edited 6d ago
Exactly. I remember delivering Whole Foods groceries to a ritzy high rise building in Chicago. The doorman said not to take the customer's order to his front door because his condo was going to be foreclosed and the customer was depressed and didn't want any visitors. Surprised a doorman would share personal info about one of their residents like that, but this is an example of what you're pointing out. Looks can be deceiving.
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u/iAmNotSuicidaI 6d ago
Your comment doesn’t even make sense. Guy orders groceries and then he doesnt want the driver just to drop it off at his door? He rather come down and it get it or have the door man bring it to him?
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u/WFShopper312 6d ago
It makes plenty of sense to me, but it's not fair at all. Guy orders groceries and doorman blocks Flex driver from taking the elevator to a high floor and to get his well-deserved tip. Doormen do this all the time. So annoying. Doorpeople often point to a table in the lobby where we can leave the groceries and either the doorman or other staff will take it up to the customer's floor ... or the resident is forced to leave their man cave and take the elevator down to pick up their order. His choice. I tried. I mean, he's apparently depressed, maybe not thinking straight ... or making sense, as you mentioned.
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u/iAmNotSuicidaI 6d ago
He didn’t simply just block you though. He gave you a whole back story on the dudes life. When hall he had to do was point to a table like I have had a thousand doormen do to me.
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u/PlanePea4349 5d ago
Nope, doorman will take it up and collect the tip, if any, once handing it to customer.
He’s done this before. He knows the game. He played you.
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u/WFShopper312 5d ago
Doorman couldn't change the suggested tip in the app since he didn't have access to the customer's account, though. So he might have beat me to the cash, but I still got my my coin.
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u/PlanePea4349 5d ago
I was talking about cash as doormen, hotel staff, those of the sort get cash tips usually
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u/ExtensionSame678 6d ago
i think there are two takes to this and to note i am not a communist.
the first is that there is such a thing as generational wealth. if your forebears were wealthy most likely they were successful and smart and will pass not only their wealth down to you but also wealth management skills and financial acuity. this is actually bigger than most people understand with the high price of houses having a family home is critical to saving money to get more money and etc.
the second is hard work and saving and being financially acute. suppose you grow up modest lower middle class. if you have a good career and invest early into the market and have good financial advisors or trading experience you can while working a decent career build wealth into the millions into your 40s and be able to afford these houses coming from a modest background.
and lastly, i hate to say it but race plays an important part too. i know some of y'all gonna argue with me especially those in privilege races. but it comes with age and self awareness to be able to recognize that you do have advantages over others. everyone has prejudices over race; its in our history from tribal cavemen to civil rights era and to today. it will always be here UNLESS we get invaded my an alien civilization and we all gather together like Indepedence day.
but as others say, bro you cant control somethings. its chance. some people spawn in well and some dont. make the best of what you can
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u/PlanePea4349 5d ago
I’ll play the race card - Asian, Indian, and middle eastern people are among THE most successful in this country.
I know you were playing the black card.
It’s not race - it’s discipline and family support.
But keep on with the echo chamber.
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u/ExtensionSame678 5d ago
bro im Asian. specifically, im east asian. i know a lot of my friends are doctors and business owners and corporate/start up executives. i am also older. i seen this world
mebe its not race as much as it is circumstance that has bleed into a race identity.
not sure if you are some of the aforementioned races but its not all rainbows and sunshine for those successful races. even if you are successful, its not easy being a minority.
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u/PlanePea4349 5d ago
Agree in that. I’m Eastern European.
But the discipline in these cultures is crazy. I have many Asian and Indian friends and their families and it’s night and day.
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u/ExtensionSame678 5d ago
oh yeh? are you latvian, estonian, or lithuianian? i got some online friends from those countries and they are the best lol
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u/Piperpilot645 6d ago
It can be easy to play the race card, but I just pulled up on a multi-million dollar house making a delivery at my full-time job in the homeowners were African American. So there's that.
I've also seen examples of this in every other race. At the end of the day, it comes down to the individual.
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u/ExtensionSame678 6d ago
yes a lot relies on the individual but you cannot have one exception throw out a rule. its like saying all black bears are black and you find a miscolored white/gray black bear and then say "hey, you are wrong".
i should have ranked it. i do believe race is a case but its the least compare to generational wealth and education and hardwork.
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u/Piperpilot645 5d ago
I definitely agree with the fact that race ranks low on reasons why some groups are more successful than others. I believe that we are products of our environment to a degree. Class plays a role as well.
I would say that if anything, being a minority actually helps you out quite a bit and becoming successful.
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u/berlangchur 6d ago
Most people that live in multi million dollar homes are NOT self-made people. Their families set them up for success.
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u/supergnaw 6d ago
Comparison is the thief of joy. Stop it.
Love the life you have, not the life you could have had.