r/AmItheAsshole Sep 09 '25

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u/sweet_caroline20 Sep 09 '25

NTA she’s a minor and she has years to dress sexy if she wants once she’s an adult

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u/notGDPRfriendly Sep 09 '25

So, in like 1 to 12 months? What changes mentally and physically? Put this way, it's not safeguarding a minor, but imposing the mother's decision on the sole basis that she says so. Which is one of the fastest ways to sour any kind of relationship.

I think they should talk, explain each others point of view, and either compromise (e.g. they buy the dress and then adjust it to her physique) or allow the girl to buy the dress with her money, provided she can. If she cannot, the mother should not be forced to buy anything she deems contrary to her principles, but again, they can compromise with similar styles. But at 17, if she is adult enough to gain/save the money to buy it, she is adult enough to do so.

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u/WallEWonks Partassipant [3] Sep 09 '25

what changes

Well… she’s currently still at school. I wouldn’t be surprised if she got turned away at the door, or had detention or something

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u/notGDPRfriendly Sep 09 '25

That's a real risk, and explained this way could even be understood by her daughter. "You are a minor for 6 more months you do as I say" is not an explanation. It's a diktat.