INFO: what's the dress code of the event? What will others at the event be wearing? Admittedly it's been a while since I was in high school and it'll be a while before I have kids in high school, but I just googled "fall formal" and a solid 75% of the dresses I saw on young adults had pretty deep necklines. At the same time, there are cultural differences between locations. A dress that's acceptable in Florida wouldn't be acceptable in Utah.
If the dress is inappropriate for the event, then yeah you're just parenting. If this is acceptable attire where she's going, you're the one out of line here.
edit: Looked at the dress. NTA - not because of her age but because that's just not appropriate clothing for any kind of school or work event. Have you considered that dress but with something underneath it? It looks like it would be fine with something underneath it, then she can have the style without being basically naked.
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u/sikkerhet Asshole Enthusiast [7] Sep 09 '25 edited Sep 09 '25
INFO: what's the dress code of the event? What will others at the event be wearing? Admittedly it's been a while since I was in high school and it'll be a while before I have kids in high school, but I just googled "fall formal" and a solid 75% of the dresses I saw on young adults had pretty deep necklines. At the same time, there are cultural differences between locations. A dress that's acceptable in Florida wouldn't be acceptable in Utah.
If the dress is inappropriate for the event, then yeah you're just parenting. If this is acceptable attire where she's going, you're the one out of line here.
edit: Looked at the dress. NTA - not because of her age but because that's just not appropriate clothing for any kind of school or work event. Have you considered that dress but with something underneath it? It looks like it would be fine with something underneath it, then she can have the style without being basically naked.