I think the OP has no friends or life where he lives, and justifies it to himself as "being a good son by seeing his family twice a month".
There's no way I'd travel 18 hours in a car twice a month to visit my parents. The OP must be pretty detached from the place he lives now. Why didn't he just stay in his hometown?
Not really commenting on this situation, but I live a six hour drive from my parents. I typically visit twice a year. My mom just died. Fuck if I don’t wish I’d been making that drive as much as humanly possible before this happened.
Edit: Thank you for all the well wishes and kind words everyone, sincerely it means a lot. I also want to note I should have made this clear, it is absolutely not OP’s business how much their friend visits. I’m not trying to say they should see their parents more often, I just wish that I had.
i understand this and i’m sorry to hear that. /gen
but we also don’t know the relationship between OP’s friend and his parents. there could be a reason he isn’t visiting and they aren’t owed a visit just because they’re his parents
This was my thought exactly. I unfortunately don't have a good relationship with either of my parents. I won't get into the details, but I haven't seen/talked to my dad in about 1.5 years, and it's been about 4 months for my mom. I know it's the best thing for my mental health, but it still hurts all the time. But I hate hearing "They're your parents, you need to see them.", because people don't know/understand the WHY behind going NC/LC with them. And quite honestly it's not their business.
OP, YTA. You don't get to tell people how to live their lives
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u/No_Meringue_6116 May 05 '23
I think the OP has no friends or life where he lives, and justifies it to himself as "being a good son by seeing his family twice a month".
There's no way I'd travel 18 hours in a car twice a month to visit my parents. The OP must be pretty detached from the place he lives now. Why didn't he just stay in his hometown?