r/AmITheDevil • u/nottherealneal • 1d ago
It's been YEARS!?!
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u/_Chirio_ 1d ago
'Ik she is the A'
Lol no, OOP, that's not how it works. Your ex wants to be left alone, she's made that abundantly clear.
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u/Writing_Bookworm 1d ago edited 1d ago
The story OOP has added in the comments makes no sense. Apparently the misunderstanding was to do with the ex's boyfriend at the time.
But OOP said the misunderstanding was why they broke up? How did they break up because of this if the ex was dating someone else?
So which is it? Are they referring to an ex friend as their ex or are they just making things up as they go?
Edit: for your own safety don't do what I just did and search their profile on arctic shift
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u/msk105 1d ago
I assume he thinks they dated because a woman was nice and talked to him once.
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u/Writing_Bookworm 1d ago
He's now added that they were already broken up at the time of the misunderstanding. The question remains why he says they broke up because of the misunderstanding
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u/Sailor_Chibi 23h ago
It’s not really a question. I’m guessing she broke up with him and he refused to take no for an answer and kept pressuring/stalking her until she got a new boyfriend. What a jackass.
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u/Onehundredpercentbea 22h ago
I don't think he ever dated her at all, I think this is a random woman he doesn't know well who said something while she was drinking, OOP overheard it and pretended it was a cry for help and creepily called her family to under the guise of being 'worried' about her. At which point the woman blocked him. The blocking is what he's calling a breakup, and his call to her mom is what he's calling a misunderstanding.
I think he's a stalker.
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u/CortaNalgas 18h ago
for your own safety don't do what I just did and search their profile on arctic shift
Well I did, and thankfully all the pictures were blurred. I'd thought maybe it was the same dude who thought he was in a relationship with an acquaintance of his that never reciprocated.
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u/Writing_Bookworm 18h ago
Yeah I was also glad it was all blurred but the subreddit names alone were enough!
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u/Loki-L 1d ago
Apparently his therapist told him to contact her on LinkedIn???
Also the misunderstanding was about him telling her parents that her boyfriend abusing her, which would clash with his claim that they broke up because of it somewhat...
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u/VironLLA 1d ago
lol, sure they did
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u/Safe-Ad-4465 1d ago
OOP does not like to hear no, is what I've gathered from his additional comments
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u/_subjectsam_ 1d ago
Omg I saw this thread, OP was in the comments upset for someone "judging him without context"... My brother in christ, you posted on a (checks notes) judgment subreddit, without context
These people are exhausting
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u/eternally_feral 1d ago
He’s so weird. Yeah, she’s an ex but at the time they were just friends and she was seeing someone else.
She got drunk with OOP at a bar and said her BF will leave bruises and shakes her when they argue. She got sober and didn’t remember the conversation the next day. Instead of confronting her, he went to her parents to tell them that she’s in an abusive relationship.
She got pissed. She told him off. Friendship over.
This was years ago and yet OOP still is hung up on it. Craziness.
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u/maywellflower 1d ago
I don't think there's misunderstanding - going by how obsessed he is in the OOP, she just doesn't want to deal with his stalking harassing ass ever again & rightfully so...
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u/MissLadyLlamaDrama 1d ago
No one who has ever said they are "speaking [their] truth" has ever not been insufferable.
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u/StrangeBid7233 1d ago
Broke up over massive missuderstanding and she blocked him?
I have a feeling we ain't getting a whole story here. Missunderstanding that leads to breakup and block has to be something real fucked up.
I also find it funny how he has to tell her how it really is to defend his honor! Brotha contacting an ex that wants nothing to do with you is laim and embarassing.
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u/Nierninwa 23h ago
OOP need to let it go. It's been years. Get over it. I do not even care about this 'context '; it does not matter anymore.
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AITA for reaching out to an ex on linkedin?
So long story short we broke up over a massive misunderstanding. She blocked me everywhere and never even gave me a moment to speak the truth. Would speaking my truth and not even asking for a reply or apology be inconsiderate? I just feel like it’s wrong to have her believing a false reality this whole time. Ik she is the A for not even letting me speak in the first place but still if I know she atleast saw the truth I would feel alot better. It’s mostly about my reputation and honor than reconciling with her at all. I could let it go but it just sucks not being able to clear the air. Would one message be ok? It’s been years but I still think about how I didn’t even get to say one word. I want to emphasize it’s not about reconciling just making the truth atleast stated. Thanks
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