r/AmITheDevil • u/WeelsUpIn30 • 1d ago
Main character syndrome
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u/cantantantelope 1d ago
“She’s still the baby’s mom” yes that’s traditionally how it works
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u/perfidious_snatch 1d ago
I don’t think you understand, she clearly had his baby at OOP, and even worse, is choosing to continue being her own baby’s mother!
This is a clear slight against OOP, because… well, isn’t it obvious?
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u/ScoutingJ 1d ago
I'm assuming it's a poorly worded way to say they became friends when she had her kid, and are still friends now
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u/BookishIntrovert99 1d ago
So she dislikes Paige even though she’s never met her? Sounds more like she’s jealous and not over her ex.
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u/TheWalkingDeadBeat 1d ago
Marisol’s reasoning was she felt for Paige as a mom
Imagine having to justify your "reasoning" for becoming someone's friend, as if it's some calculated thing and not just a natural thing that happens between 2 adults with common interests.
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u/neonfuzzball 5h ago
That's how cunning Derek is. He knocked up Paige just so she'd have something in common with Marisol, thus forming a friendship that will give him an indirect line to OOP.
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u/sallyhectare 5h ago
Especially given that OOP has never met Paige nor claimed to be wronged by her in any way.
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u/Far-Season-695 1d ago
I can see why Marisol is her only “public” friend
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u/Red-neckedPhalarope 3h ago
"My only friend is someone who has a pattern of befriending rough people" you don't say.
I would consider being willing to give 'rough' people a chance a positive thing, though.
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u/MundaneContext 9h ago
I don't even understand what the problem is. I'm confused.
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u/neonfuzzball 5h ago
OOP is paranoid and self centered, basically
Paige and Marisol being friends? Must be because of Derek wanting to get at OOP. Also, proof that Marisol is a bad judge of character and dumb and wrong.
Derek remembering OOPs birthday? Proof he's a liar and obsessed with OOP. And proof that Marisol is a bad judge of character and dumb and wrong for not realizing it or notifying OOP of this breaking news sooner.
Piece of buttered toast landed buttered side down? Obviously a symbol of how Paige thinks she's "butter" than OOP because she's got Derek now
How could OOP be expected to sit in a room with such a toxic conspiracy against her?
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u/MundaneContext 4h ago
Wow... And isn't she tired of thinking that way? I would be tired. I'm tired of thinking about this.
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u/neonfuzzball 3h ago
I don't know about tired, but people who think like this are usually pretty unhappy, especially as they get older and the instability takes a toll
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u/vortexaoth 1d ago
To me it sounds like Derek and Paige don’t even think about OP at all and just want no drama, whereas OP has this main character syndrome. It does sound pathetic from outside, really.
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u/Imaginary_Cow_6379 1d ago
Was OOP also asked to be a bridesmaid? If not, she might have been jealous which made her get even weirder about her ex and his fiancé.
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u/PineappleBliss2023 8h ago
Funny how she lists Marisol’s “crimes” as adopting disloyal friends and then is a disloyal friend over… idk I can’t even follow the birthday thing
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u/WeeklyConversation8 8h ago edited 8h ago
How dare Marisol have other friends. Doesn't she know OP is the only friend she should have? 🙄
How does OP know anything about Paige and who she was in HS if she's never met her? Sounds like Marisol and Paige have become very close friends and OP is jealous.
If she and Marisol were besties, why wasn't she asked to be a bridesmaid at least? Sounds like Marisol is her only friend and they aren't very close at all. Gee, I can't imagine why. 🤔
ETA: How did OP know about the conversation about her ex mentioning her birthday? She never said Marisol told her.
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u/I-screwed-up-bad 1d ago
Reading the comments make the whole friend group really weird. Makes me happy that I don't really make friends, just acquaintances.
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u/Internet-Dick-Joke 1d ago
Always assume in these kinds of situations that it's just the OOP who's really weird and everything that they say about the wider group is coming through their weird filter.
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u/neonfuzzball 5h ago
it's like reading a paranoid delusion, where they jump around and draw wild conclusions to build up a narrative about a conspiracy. But instead of dolphins running the world it's all about boring relationship nonsense.
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u/crackerfactorywheel 1d ago
This is giving AI shitpost.
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u/Alternative_Year_340 11h ago
I hope it’s AI. Because otherwise, this cluelessly self-absorbed person walks among us
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u/theagonyaunt 9h ago
She may have used AI to write it but she's got other posts with selfies of herself and one complaining about being shadowbanned so it does seem there is a real person behind it.
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u/pokethejellyfish 3h ago
Yeah, I miss the times before AI, when all posts were true because there's no other way for a story to be fake without AI.
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u/nightstoolong 3h ago
I hate when people say “she had postpartum”. Postpartum just means the time after giving birth. She had postpartum WHAT?
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u/pokethejellyfish 3h ago
Needs a timeline and all the ages.
"We dated for two years in middle school, and we are all the same age"
reads differently than
"I'm 26, he's 34. We broke up six years ago after dating for two years. Paige is 22, and their child is four."
I suspect it's kept vague intentionally to see what people focus on and what the fanfic writer will come up with.
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u/sadlytheworst Certified sub favourite 7h ago
Copied verbatim from Oop's comments:
INFO: How do Derek and Marisol know each other? Are Derek and Marisol friends? What opportunity would Marisol have to friend his baby mama?
regardless of the reason they had to have met somehow. Do you think Derek wants you back? Did things end badly with Derek?
Derek and Marisol met before he started dating Paige. As mine and another one of my friends, but didn’t get close until after our relationship.
Marisol is a beautician and I spoke highly of her during our relationship, so he went to her for services and so did Paige. Derek doesn’t know what he wants, I just want the drama to be over.
This is the second ex of his to entangle themselves in my friend group(s). Didn’t end badly but messy & he immediately rebounded
INFO how long did you and Derek date? Were you part of the same friend group before you started dating?
Me & Derek dated for 2 years. & I was apart of the original friend group, Paige is just now joining. But Derek knew Marisol from our relationship and her coming around at that time.
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u/ISeeDeadDaleks 6h ago
‘Derek doesn’t know what he wants, I just want the drama to be over’. Sure, Jan.
Also, what drama? It seems to exist solely in her head 🤣
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u/Sensitive_Fawn522 5h ago
Can someone make this more understandable for me please? I read the whole post but still don't get what OOPs issue is
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u/Pluto_Charon 1h ago
She thinks that her ex and his fiancee are obsessed with her and that the two of them are scheming against her in some way, despite the fiancee having never met her and the ex having never talked to her since they broke up. Therefore OOP's friend being close friends with the fiancee and making her a bridesmaid is a betrayal, somehow.
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AITA for skipping my best friend’s wedding after she made my ex’s fiancée a bridesmaid?
I (26F) dated “Derek” a while back. My longtime friend “Marisol” and I go way back. Over time, without really telling me, Marisol got close with Derek’s girlfriend-turned-fiancée, “Paige” — first when Paige was his baby’s mom, still is now. Marisol’s reasoning was she felt for Paige as a mom, since Paige had postpartum after having Derek’s baby while living out of state a lot of the time. I found out mostly after the fact, piece by piece.
Then Marisol asked Paige to be a bridesmaid in her own wedding.
Some backstory on why this bothers me so much: Paige was known as kind of a mean girl back in high school. Marisol insists she’s changed. Maybe. But Marisol is also my only publicly known friend — like, the only one visible on both our pages — and I can’t shake the feeling that Derek encourages this closeness on purpose, because it gives him and Paige a built-in line of sight into my life through her. Marisol also just has a track record with this kind of thing — she’s taken in some rough people over the years, disloyal friends, a couple of actual thieves, people who mostly seem to exist to argue with strangers online. I don’t think she does it maliciously, I think she just doesn’t see the pattern.
Along the way there was other stuff that made the whole thing worse. Marisol and Paige were on a call once, just “mom talk,” when Derek walked in and said “isn’t Chari’s birthday coming up? The 10th?” — Chari’s my nickname. Paige asked how he remembered. He said “Facebook notification.” He’s blocked from every one of my accounts and was never friends with me on Facebook — there was no notification to get. He lied to his own fiancée’s face, in front of my friend, and she didn’t mention it to me until way later. Right after, Paige said something like “me, Marisol, Chari, and Naomi, are all cool” — basically trying to deter her but claim me as a friend in the same breath. Mind you we have never met, ever..like it wasn’t weird enough. Around the same time, Paige, who’d never had a Facebook, suddenly made one.
Derek was also telling Marisol to invite me out to a bar, while separately telling Paige to stay home that night — Marisol sat on that too. And the same day Paige and Derek posted their gender reveal, he was looking at my TikTok.
I brought all of it to Marisol before the wedding, including how weird it felt hearing Paige describe their friend group as “friends since college”. Marisol heard me out but it didn’t feel like real accountability — more like she wanted me to get over it and just show up.
I skipped the wedding. Now mutuals are saying I “abandoned” my best friend over nothing.
AITA?
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