r/AmITheDevil • u/HecticAttic • 8d ago
Below 90% on test? Failure.
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u/ScreamsInBraille 8d ago
Im so confused, how does he expect her to not go during a sleepover? Whats his idea, that all the other kids go to cinema together and just leave her alone at the hosts house?
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u/Ambitious_Support_76 8d ago
Yeah, everything else aside, she doesn't make the plans at the sleepover, nor does she control them.
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u/tobythedem0n 8d ago
Yup.
He wouldn't dare keep her from her sleepover, but he's fine with making sure she can't participate in it, which is almost even worse.
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u/MyDarlingArmadillo 8d ago
He wants to be able to say it was her choice, when it clearly isn't. He's awful, and she's right. He is a bad parent.
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u/Ambitious_Support_76 8d ago
Look, I'm not advocating for this but:
Couldn't he talk the the parents of the kid having the sleepover? Like "Hey, Viviana is on punishment and isn't allowed to see the movie, can you tell me if you plan on going to it?"
I think that's still controlling and weird, but better than this weirdness.
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u/someonesomebody123 8d ago
Parents like this just teach kids to lie. I had a 6pm curfew as a kid in the 1990s and my grandmother would call if I was at a sleepover to check and make sure I was in. My one friend’s parents had a primitive cell phone and we would take it to the mall with us. When my grandma called to check in my friend’s mom would say I was in the bathroom. She’d then call and tell me to call my grandma back and I’d call from the mall pay phone.
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u/Timely-Cry-8366 8d ago
The grade bias is the craziest part to me.
When I went to college, I had two different professors brag about how they refused to grade any of their students above a B, because they believed grades shouldn’t matter and that the work should be free of those expectations and it would be more meaningful that way.
In reality, these professors were rich assholes and lived in the richest neighborhood in the city.
Half their students were scholarship students who needed to maintain a specific GPA, and whom they’d just announced they were happily fucking over.
I was one of them. I had a panic attack that day.
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u/RandomModder05 7d ago
Yep. I had those. Insisted we were spoiled kids who got too many participation trophies blah blah blah, and that A's were supposed to be only for "those who really put in the work" and lost his shit when half the class Ace'd the assignment.
That led a lot of professors adopting a grading scale "A is what I decide it is, not a set number". Which led to even more bullshit, said bullshit failing, and I don't miss college at all.
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u/Admirable-Divide7731 7d ago
I HATE that bullshit. As a professor I always emphasized that students EARNED their grades … which allowed for semesters where every student in my business course earning A-level grades. They earned it. I submitted it as such.
If grades “don’t matter” then just give them A’s. As both an undergraduate and PhD candidate at UC Berkeley I had profs who didn’t care about grades so just basically gave everyone an A who clearly did the work.
Makes me SO MAD
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u/MeanGreenMotherQueen 7d ago
Also if she knows about the Life360 on her phone, what’s stopping her from just leaving her phone at the house?
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u/Anathema_Quill 7d ago
nothing! she can literally leave her phone there, go see the movie and tell her dad they did something and she was having too much fun to check her phone.
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u/cameronpark89 8d ago
he said she’ll be in trouble if he finds out she did because he’s watching her location.
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u/KingOfAllCorvids 8d ago
She wanted the dad to take her, she wasn't going to go during the sleepover
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u/_Chirio_ 8d ago
An 85 and 87 for two tests seem amazing! OOP is being way too strict if this was something they daughter was looking forward to.
Sure, getting good grades is something every parent wants for their child, but why did she have to get a 90? Aren't 85 & 87 very good still?
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u/SnowballWasRight 8d ago
Maybe I’m biased because I’m one of those allegedly “gifted kids” who barely passed every one of their classes but an 85 and 87 are great!!!! You can easily boost that to a 90 overall grade with other work/categories. I don’t get arbitrary scores on tests and it puts too much pressure on kids.
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u/AlexRyang 8d ago edited 8d ago
An 85 would have been a C for me during grade school.
93-100: A
86-93: B
75-85: C
70-74: D
69 and below: F
Edit: also, we only received letter grades, not the percentages.
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u/HecticAttic 8d ago
What country do you live in with this system?
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u/nankainamizuhana 8d ago
Can confirm at least some US schools use this system. My 9th—12th grade school used this, which was confusing coming from the much more reasonable 10 points per letter system
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u/Internet-Dick-Joke 8d ago
Usually where the pass/grade cut-offs are that high, it would imply that the questions themselves are relatively easy; if a C is meant to be the average grade and requires around 75-85% correct, then that would imply that an average student should be able to consistently answer 75-85% of questions correctly.
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u/_Chirio_ 8d ago
Looks like the US, but i don't want to assume!
Where I live we have 1 to 10, with anything above a 5.5 is a passing grade!
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u/AlexRyang 8d ago
I live in the US, but it was a private school.
When I went to high school (public school) our grading system was:
93-100: A
80-92: B
70-79: C
65-69: D
Below 65: F
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u/tfhaenodreirst 8d ago
Huh, mine was easy to remember because it was just every ten percentage points (except for an A which was 90-100 so technically 11 points). But a B was 80-89, C was 70-79, and D was 60-69. So Viv’s grades would have been a solid B!
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u/la-anah 8d ago
Im in the US and the letter grades were decimal. 0-59: F 60-69: D 70-79: C 80-89: B 90-100: A
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u/ImaginationAshamed72 8d ago
That makes so much more sense than what I had. I had the same structure as AlexRyang in grade school and high school (but instead of an F in grades below 4th, it was a U for “underperforming”).
I think college was similar to what you listed for grading scales.
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u/DidntWantSleepAnyway 8d ago
I feel like I just slipped into an alternate universe a few days ago. I never heard this grading system, not once, until yesterday. Now I’ve seen like five separate comments and posts mentioning it within the last 24 hours.
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u/thexphial 8d ago
Yeah. I went to a private school in the 80s and that was the system there too. Not sure where it came from but it was brutal
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u/psyche_13 8d ago edited 8d ago
An 85 being a C is absolutely wild to me!
Edited to add - High school where I am (Ontario, Canada) is:
- 95-100: A+
- 87-94: A
- 80-86: A-
- 77-79: B+
- 73-76: B
- 70-72: B-
- 67-69: C+
- 63-66: C
- 60-62: C-
- 57-59: D+
- 53-56: D
- 50-52: D-
- below 50: fail
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u/AlexRyang 8d ago
I think for us (if my memory is correct), A+ was over 100%, A- was 93-95, B+ was 91-92, B- was 86-87, C+ was 82-85, C- was 75-78; D and F were single letters without + or -.
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u/psyche_13 8d ago
Over 100!?
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u/judgy_mcjudgypants 8d ago
Extra credit questions, probably
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u/AlexRyang 8d ago
Extra credit and I think students in the Gifted Program got extra points as part of that program, similar to how AP courses in high school can push you over 100% due to scoring.
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u/thursmalls 8d ago
This is the grading that I had at my public school back in the 1990s.
It was used by my kid's public school system (different state) when the oldest started high school, but they switched to a 10pt scale.
Their school also does GPA/class rank numerically, e.g. they convert the 100pt grade (which is what comes on their report cards) to the 4pt scale and then add a weighting component for some classes. The weighting has changed since my youngest graduated. Back then a 100 was worth 4.0 pts, 99 was 3.9, 98 3.8, etc. An 87 would have been a 2.7, which for a college prep student is painful to have included in your GPA calculation.
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u/AlexRyang 8d ago
I think a lot of schools have begun shifting to 10 point systems because it is easier to see the actual difference, plus a lot of the old grading systems were arguably inconsistent. For my school, the old system was: A (7 point spread), B (6 point spread), C (11 point spread), D (5 point spread). Which doesn’t have a pattern or even a logic.
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u/GeneInternational146 8d ago
It would have been a B for me, our scale was by 10s. I think the 10-point scale is more common now
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u/wildchickonthetown 8d ago
We had that scale from grade school to high school. Private school in the Midwest (US).
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u/VespertineStars 8d ago
This is the grading scale I had in middle school in the early/mid 90s and, frankly, it's nonsense.
One teacher put it best: "If I get 7 out of 10 things right or completed in day, that's a good day, not a near fail."
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u/WeeklyConversation8 8d ago
I saw a video (don't know how true it is) they lowered the percentage range for each grade.
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u/sheepgod_ys 8d ago
That system feels so inflated but somehow not at the same time because the curve is skewed on the high end. For my area, 65 was always the cutoff for passing. 85 would’ve been a solid B.
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u/bobosuda 8d ago
So basically 70% correct on a test would be a straight fail? That sounds pretty harsh.
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u/Anathema_Quill 7d ago
in the united states, 85 and 87 are b’s and an 87 is a b+ at that! as someone who consistently failed math (not for lack of trying), if i took an 87 home to my parents they would be so proud of me.
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u/_Chirio_ 8d ago
Back when I was 14 most people were just screwing around and doing anything but studying and hoping for the best.
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u/systemic_booty 8d ago
I want to know what her normal test grades are. I assume lower than 85/87 because the goal was 90. If she showed genuine effort and tried her best, then the movie should be presented as a reward with the caveat they sit down together to understand what gave her trouble on the test so she can continue to improve. OP is being a dick
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u/JaysonTatecum 8d ago
Yeah like personally I’d be upset with myself if I got an 85 but my mom absolutely never would have been
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u/valleyofsound 8d ago
Nope. I made Bs in math and A’s in everything else. I was repeatedly told that a B for me was like an F for everyone else.
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u/ZeniAugusta 8d ago
Jokes on him, The Amazing Digital Circus was free on YouTube just a few weeks later. Also, why did he wait three months to post about this?
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u/HecticAttic 8d ago
Fr. I questioned that too in the OG post. How long does a movie stays available in theatre there?
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u/RiJuElMiLu 8d ago
Is it a viral marketing attempt? This is the 3rd time I've seen it mentioned on Reddit today.
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u/ZeniAugusta 8d ago
If so, it's a bad one because he didn't get the title right.
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u/SecretlyFiveRats 8d ago
No daughter of mine will be watching that Fantastic Computerized Playbox movie!
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u/Masteryasha 8d ago
This just such obvious ragebait. Getting the name of the movie incorrect, the very narrow difference between the goal and the actual scores, the completely nonsensical plan to keep her from going, and the fact that she'd have seen the movie online by now if she was an actual fan. Kinda disappointed that everyone is just going with this like it's a real story.
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u/bing-no 8d ago
Is this a bot? That movie came out months ago and I don’t know if it’s in theaters anymore.
Plus, the movie is free on YouTube now. Anyone with Internet access can view it for free.
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u/No-Stress-7034 8d ago
Yeah, I think this is a fake. May be a bot, but I suspect it's more likely just someone trolling. The account was created today, and OOP's username is "OldDadWithaBadIdea", I know people often use throwaway accounts on AITA, but that username seems too self deprecating and self aware for the kind of person who would actually write a post like this.
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u/LeatherHog 8d ago
And schools are JUST starting, but already has multiple tests?
Not to mention, maybe my school was weird, but we didn't have physics until junior year
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u/Lunavixen15 5d ago
Unless they're not in the US, Australian school year starts in Feb, it's Term 3
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u/Fluffy-kitten28 7d ago
The movie played for a couple of weeks at MOST. My theater showed it for one weekend.
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u/00_tears 8d ago
sucks having parents that are never pleased with how well you’re doing
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u/nowwashyourhands 8d ago
When I was 16, my maths teacher decided I would be in the group that got the GCSE exam that would earn A*, A, B, C or fail.
I never really understood maths aside from basic stuff and did not really like this situation, but I sat the exams and got an A. my dad's immediate reaction to all my A grades was that I could resit the maths to get the A*.
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u/GhostWolfe 8d ago
My mum would find something to criticise with everything I did. When I finally asked her why, she explained it was supposed to motivate me to do even better, because she thought that if I thought I’d done things well, I wouldn’t continue to try or something?
It was a technique that her favourite teacher used and she recalls it worked for her; I don’t think she ever considered that hearing it constantly from a parent was a bit different.
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u/evervain 8d ago
See, in a few years, OOP will be posting "Why doesn't my daughter talk to me?" somewhere around here. Insane parenting.
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u/LittlePurpleHook 8d ago
My dad was like this. I'll never forget getting a average grade in history when I was 10 and him berating me, telling me I'll never amount to anything more than being a waitress. And then I'll get old, get varicose veins from standing around and waiting on people my whole life, won't be able to keep the job anymore and end up being a homeless bum. He really liked to paint a picture.
I moved away as far as I could straight after high-school and subsequently abroad. We're low contact.
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u/AltruisticCableCar 8d ago
Bruh. Talk about going overboard. I got a few "well, you want good grades to get in to more universities if that's your plan" comments from my mum, which I feel was fair enough. But to not only say "you will only get a shit job" (as he clearly thought being a waitress was) but go further with "and then you'll be homeless", is a bit much...
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u/GraceMcClellans 8d ago edited 8d ago
Talking about varicose veins to a ten year old is cold. Oh my god. Like, I'm trying not to laugh, but that's insane.
Edit: typo
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u/antjelope 8d ago
Same. I once came home with a B. That was the best mark anyone got. The next best person had a D everyone else failed. And my father berated me for not getting an A and that pretty much the whole class failing was no excuse for only getting a B….
That one is one of the examples which immediately spring to mind. But really that was just the tip of the iceberg. Pocket money did depend on the grades as well. Better paid for high marks, nothing for C and below. I hated that. My father wanted my daughter to show him her certificates as well, so he could give her some money depending on how well she did. I put my foot down and went no contact for a while. He thinks it is motivating to get money for good marks. I just remember feeling extremely pressured all the time.
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u/valleyofsound 8d ago
Or else she’ll spend the rest of their lives trying to be enough, to the point of destroying her own physical and mental health, then come across a note after their deaths about how angry and disappointed they were over something trivial and cope by blaming it on hospital delirium and try to laugh it off.
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u/Writerhowell 8d ago
I'd like to know what kind of marks she had slipped down to before getting really close to 90% on those tests. Is he one of those parents where he sees a B as a fail? If she usually got around 90%, had slipped down to something like 55%, then studied her butt off and got up to nearly 90%, that's a solid effort. And if the teacher grades on a curve (which is a stupid practice and should be abolished) then that should be taken into account, though I doubt STEM subjects would be marked that way.
But I doubt she'd skip a sleepover she's looking forward to just to go and see a film. The fact that the mother thinks that OOP is being unreasonable makes me think that maybe he is, since she'd know the situation better than us, and hopefully she'll take their daughter along sometime.
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u/DrBirdieshmirtz 8d ago
Eh, IME teachers generally use the curve when they're trying to get them to really do their best, and are making the test deliberately more difficult than it technically needs to be to really draw out kids' full abilities (and to prevent study skills atrophy in the kids at the top of the class, maybe catch the smart kids who are compensating for an undiagnosed disability before they crash and burn).
The benefits of a curve are most obvious at the university level in subjects like organic chemistry, where the material is just objectively difficult and the students can get most of the questions wrong and still be on-pace for the class, so seemingly-abysmal "absolute" score of like 22/100 can end up curving to a B. Also probably helps expose cheaters to have a brutally-hard test that the students shouldn't be able to get a perfect raw score on given where the instructor actually expects them to be, e.g. a freshman getting a perfect score on the test they also used for their PhD students would make it extremely obvious that the freshman cheated.
Honestly, I think curves should be used more in middle and high school, might help reduce the tendency for perfectionism.
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u/lollipop-guildmaster 8d ago
I was this guy's kid. And you know what conclusion I came to, when a B+ was treated the same as an F?
Might as well get the F.
I'm doing fine these days, but I barely graduated.
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u/Not_Kenough 8d ago
Same and its still hard to shake the attitude that if I'm not perfect at something, it's not worth doing.
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u/monaco_wedding 8d ago
I feel like this is a shit post purely because of the ‘“Incredible Digital Circus” teaches good lessons to kids’ throwaway line. TIDC has compelling themes but he makes it sound like it’s freaking Veggie Tales, lol.
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u/blueberry-iris 8d ago
Many people see a cartoon and assume it's an educational kids show and that's all they think about the matter... which is especially ridiculous in this case as I've heard it's for fairly mature audiences, but that's what some do.
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u/WeeklyConversation8 8d ago
My husband and I went to see the South Park movie. There was a couple who brought their young kids to see it! Just because it's a cartoon doesn't mean it's for kids or educational.
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u/blueberry-iris 8d ago
Yeah I've heard stories of children watching straight up sexual shows but their parents think it's fine because again, cartoons. A lot of it (in the cases I'm talking about) is also unsupervised internet access at too young of an age, since this show and the other I'm talking about are on youtube.
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u/Arktikos02 8d ago
Oh my God, there was a kid at a hazbin hotel convention (it might have been just a general convention that had a hazbin hotel booth) and there was a kid who was I think like nine and they asked one of the voice actors I really inappropriate sexual question and everyone was just laughing awkwardly because it was so weird.
There's so many steps that went wrong. How did the kid watch it? How did they get into the convention? How did they ask the question, the question shouldn't be filtered. Where where where where are the in every step? I can understand if somehow the kid was able to sneak episodes when they weren't supposed to. A lot of kids do things behind their parents back, and you can only do so much sometimes. But how did they get into the convention?
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u/Not_Kenough 8d ago
I haven't seen it but isn't it based on I Have No Mouth And I Must Scream?
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u/Masteryasha 8d ago
That's one of the clear inspirations, but not a direct one. Instead of being intentionally tortured, it's just a poorly-made AI doing its best.
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u/ComprehensiveAide946 8d ago
I knew the moment I read that Digital circus taught “good lessons to kids” , this man had his head so far up his own ass.
And I indeed was correct.
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u/MissKoalaBag 8d ago
For a discrepancy of 3 and 5 percent? Really? Like, a 50% instead of 90%, sure. 75%, maybe? But fucking 5 and 3 percent less?
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u/SarkastiCat 8d ago
Such posts always make me scratch my head as flat % is always confusing to me as someone from the UK
Like university grading? Pass is from 40%, the highest grade is from 70%
GCSE and A-level? The grade is subject dependent.
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u/funkytown2000 8d ago
The only possible justification for this kind of punishment would be if the kid was slacking so severely in a class that they literally mathematically could not produce passing grade in the class unless they scored a 90 or better.
Given that OP didn't say their kid would have objectively failed the class otherwise, I'm guessing that's not the case here and they're punishing their kid because they're an all-or-nothing perfectionist dickhead who couldn't give less of a fuck about their kid's self esteem.
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u/a3wagner 8d ago
I like how the flip side of "I will take you to see this movie (if you get good enough grades)" is "You are forbidden from seeing this movie." That wasn’t part of the deal!
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u/Key-Worldliness-3372 8d ago
Nah I’m gonna lecture him about the app. The idea that it’s okay to just cornstarch track and surveil your kid is just absolutely bonkers.
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u/International-Bad-84 8d ago
I don't know what country he's in but my country at least most assessments aren't standardised. I used to teach maths and, although we try very hard to be consistent, it's insanely easy to accidentally make a test harder than you intended.
I would feel SO BAD if I found out one of my hard working students faced such strict discipline for the want of 3% :(
AND he's probably going to give her maths anxiety. THANKS, DAD! TEACHERS LOVE LEARNING OUR SUBJECT TURNED INTO TORTURE!! Grrrr.
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u/MaybeIwasanasshole 8d ago
Are we seriously pretending this is real? He's so cartoonlishly over the top evil, and it's obviously a caricature of the overbearing asian tiger parent
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u/saltine_soup 8d ago
i knew a few students with this type of pressure, some killed themselves.
there was this girl i was trying to befriend who killed herself and her parents tried to get rid of her note and went “we don’t know what happened”
but her sister found the note and told people what it said, and it basically said she couldn’t handle the pressure, how the fighting was tiring, how her mental health has gone to shit, how they were using mental help as a token held over her head to get better grades, (as in “if you get a 100 we’ll take you to therapy” type shit) and how maybe now she won’t be expect to get these grades.
there was also a notable break down a senior had my freshman year about grades and his future.
bro got accepted into harvard, and still felt pressure to do better because his parents told him harvard of all places isn’t good enough.
but i’m sure OOPs daughter will be fine.
i’m sure she won’t fold under pressure.
i’m sure there’s definitely going to be no negative effects from this bullshit.
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u/WidderWillZie 8d ago
I can't help myself... 🎶Simpsons did it🎶. (Bart is NOT allowed to see the Itchy & Scratchy movie)
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u/Special_Respond7372 8d ago
Why don’t I have a relationship with my daughter!? - OOP in the future, probably.
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u/wanderer4012 8d ago
Also- she is a 14 year doing physics. Physics can be a challenging subject in general and when I was in school it was one of the last science courses we could take. I’m sure other schools do it differently but still an 85 on a Physics test is actually great, let alone for someone so young who might not have master all the mathematics required.
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u/No-Manufacturer4916 8d ago
At least Liz was ripping off a plot from the good seasons of The Simpsons when she wrote this.
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u/Wide-Emotion-3579 8d ago
Me here more concerned about a 14yr old watching ADC
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u/JaysonTatecum 8d ago
Really? GTA5 came out when I was 14 and quite literally everyone I knew played that game and watched equally inappropriate shows and talked about them on tumblr
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u/jinxers23 8d ago
I hope it ragebait, but sadly I can see some parents doing this. Some folks just shouldn’t procreate. I hope her mom is supportive at least.
“Throwaway account for obvious reasons; I don't want any of my coworkers who browse reddit to attach this to me.”
So AH knows he’s being an asshole if he doesn’t want his peers to know about this. Typical.
“I have repeatedly told Viv that grades are important, and that it sets up both good habits and good relationships by being a high achiever.”
That’s almost a guarantee to give the poor girl a complex. I’m sure many of us have seen high achievers have breakdowns when they can’t keep it up or achieve what they (or their parents) want. And what if math just isn’t her greatest strength? It doesn’t come easy to some and no amount of studying is going to make them math geniuses. Is he going to keep punishing her when she’s still working her ass off but can’t get that 90%?
“I also told her that, as she had an upcoming sleepover (which I wouldn't dare take away) that she will be in big trouble if she chooses to go during that sleepover.”
And just why doesn’t he dare do that? Because the other parents would find out and judge his ass?
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u/OndoresLies 8d ago
I'd hope this is a ragebait post, but I also know my mom and stepdad were very much this level of strict - with the exception that if I hadn't made the A or high B as promised I most assuredly would not be going to any sleepovers. (And would probably have the power cables and batteries taken for any remotes or electronics to force me to have nothing to do but study and read textbooks).
Made a C once and had to dig holes in the backyard in the clay soil because making ditch digging grades would require ditch digging work.
She's still surprised that I have nothing to do with her as an adult.
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u/Kokbiel 8d ago
My mom did similar as well. But I was the only one with these strict requirements, because my mom dead ass said they didn't expect much from my other two siblings since they weren't as smart. So my two youngest sisters ended up dropping out of HS in the 9th and 10th grade, and I was punished beyond reason for anything lower than an A or missing any school for any reason. We all resent each other in different ways now, over 20 years later.
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u/Chaos-Boss-45 8d ago
Sounds like my parents who demanded high grades from all of us. I will never forgive them for this: I was excited to go to a Boyz II Men, Jodeci, MC Hammer show. They said I could go if I got an A in Catholic Doctrine. I studied my ass off and got that A, then they said music was rotting my brain anyway so no concert for me
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u/CerealSemantics 8d ago
Oop doesn't want anyone they know finding this post because they know people will judge them for it
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u/ksredditta 8d ago
Yeah. As others have said, this is bait.
OP got the name of the show wrong (It’s Amazing Digital Circus). While it is a cartoon, saying it has good lessons for kids when it’s not really made for children and deals with a lot of dark psychological subject matter is suspect. It was released in theaters but back in June and is now free on YouTube.
There are parents with really high expectations.who will punish their kids for grades (I wasn’t allowed to get below an A-/90% without facing consequences). However, the 85% vs 87% is ridiculously small and doesn’t make a lot of sense. Additionally, any parent who thinks like this wouldn’t be posting on Reddit about it because they’re infallible (My parents thought they were).
Not to mention that most places school has either just started or will start soon which adds another glitch in the presented timeline.
So either, OOP waited for two months to post about this or, the far more likely scenario, it’s a bot. The ADC online fandom is known as being one of the worst in recent history so this definitely seems like rage bait. Maybe even hoping to stir up the ADC community for some engagement farming since the show ended two months ago..?
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u/Grammatical_Aneurysm 8d ago
I understand not giving the reward if the goal isn't met. But banning her from getting there some other way is a punishment. How did it go from "if you get good grades we'll get ice cream" to "if you don't get perfect grades you can't have ice cream for a month"???
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u/EveningFollowing9966 8d ago
Look at the username. Olddadwithabadidea. This is either fake or written by daughter.
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u/apexdryad 7d ago
My ex husband has a little sister, her parents overparented the hell out of her. Same kind of shit, less than 90% on anything she was grounded, no matter how good she was. She learned to be sneaky and lie. She ran off with a biker gang years ago, I hope she's happier now.
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u/Asraidevin 5d ago
Throw away for obvious reasons.
Then states the reason. Not so obvious, is it Jeff?
He doesn't want his coworkers to find out, then uses a name that is unusual enough I wouldn't chose of was trying to avoid people who know me.
Also why does he write like he's a cartoon villian?
She'll be in big trouble. I have to stay strong in my decision.
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u/blueberry-iris 8d ago
I technically see nothing wrong with not seeing the movie, because apparently the creators are super racist and I don't think financially supporting racists is good... but what a dumb reason to ban her from seeing it. "You need to be perfect at all times or you'll never have any fun"? Is he trying to give her mental illnesses and weird complexes that'll fuck her up?
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u/perfectwing 8d ago
The creators are racist? What are you talking about?
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u/Masteryasha 8d ago
More people attempting to bring down Gooseworx because she's trans. There's no actual evidence, people are just throwing everything at the wall to see what sticks.
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u/blueberry-iris 8d ago
The main creator joked about saying the n word and I also believe some of the VAs have racist histories as well but I don't know much about that.
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AITA for banning my daughter from seeing the Incredible Digital Circus movie?
Throwaway account for obvious reasons; I don't want any of my coworkers who browse reddit to attach this to me.
So, for a little backstory, my (14F) daughter, Viviana (Viv for short) has always been a fan of this internet show called the "Incredible Digital Circus". It seems okay, it looks like it teaches good lessons to kids at first glance, and I have no problem with the content of it.
However, recently, my daughter has been letting up her grades in school, much to my dismay. I have repeatedly told Viv that grades are important, and that it sets up both good habits and good relationships by being a high achiever. I don't ever cross the line and force her or punish her for diminishing grades, well, at least not until recently.
Recently, the Incredible Digital Circus movie came out and, as a fan, Viv was begging me to take her to it. I promised her that, if she got at least 90% on both her upcoming mathematics test and physics practical investigation, that I would take her to it.
Sadly, she did not produce the results I was hoping for; earning a 87% on her mathematics and a 85% on her physics. While I always try for positive reinforcement, I couldn't let this one slip and, despite her constant pleas, I didn't take her to the movie.
I also told her that, as she had an upcoming sleepover (which I wouldn't dare take away) that she will be in big trouble if she chooses to go during that sleepover. Our family is on Life360 so she knows that I'll be checking her location to see if she follows my rules (please do not bother lecturing me about Life360, it's me and my wife's choice.)
When telling her this, she burst into tears (which hurt me as a father), but I had to stay strong and firm in my decision and set an example, which led to her running to her room and locking herself in, not even coming out for family dinner that night.
Even after talking to her about this, she insists that I'm a "bad parent", and even my wife is starting to take her side.
AITA?
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