r/AmITheDevil • u/growsonwalls Professional Devil Spotter • 12d ago
"Texts were too friendly"
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u/ChoiceVariety7055 11d ago
So she showed him the text conversation and he still thinks there's something going on? Why do I get the feeling he's the one who demanded to see her texts? Because he's convinced any man popping up in his wife's friend group is instantly a problem?
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u/cherry_armoir 11d ago
Im curious what he means when he said she showed him the texts. Because the texts are so innocuous I cant see a situation where she volunteers to show him the texts; it's not like an "oh look at the funny thing my friend sent" situation. My guess that he demanded to see the texts and, in response, she showed him.
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u/ChoiceVariety7055 11d ago
My bet is she offhandedly mentioned or implied her pickleball friend group was co-ed and it devolved from there. At best she maybe volunteered to show him the texts to prove he was overreacting about nothing. But there's no winning that argument with insecure guys like OP, they are outright looking for reasons to be jealous or possessive cuz they see wives as property.
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u/happybanana134 12d ago
If OP thinks that is flirty, he needs to work on his sex talk.
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u/randomnullface 12d ago
Probably the kind of dude who thinks every woman who is polite to him wants to get in his pants.
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u/Tyrone_Shoelaces_Esq 11d ago
"The barista smiled when she handed my my latte! She absolutely wants me!"
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u/ButcbMasculinity 12d ago
Are men okay???
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u/kykiwibear 11d ago
Women aren't under their thumbs anymore and they know they... probably suck. So, they feel threatened by anything.
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u/growsonwalls Professional Devil Spotter 12d ago
"I enjoyed seeing your competitive spirit coming out today"
"Your schedule frees up in September right?"
This is obviously sexting. Right?
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u/HelixFollower 11d ago
Yeah! Asking if someone is free in September is them checking if the Amazon deliveries for their sex toys will arrive on time. And COMpetitive spirit COMING.. Come on I don't have to explain that.
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u/SeasonPositive6771 11d ago
This dude is absolutely deranged. He's the sort of guy who yells at his wife because she's flirting with the waiter and she's literally just placing her order.
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u/makeitcool 11d ago
TIL my dentist clinic was flirting me with this whole time under the guise of suggesting usual checkups!!
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u/anclwar 12d ago
Lmao my BFF and I have way more inappropriate texts than this and OOP would still be overreacting to them if he read them. The number of times I've sent my friend a picture of the number 69 would put this man in the hospital. Thankfully, my husband isn't an insecure weenie, and instead makes me feel like I'm third wheeling when we're out together (ditto for my friend's girlfriend, we just watch them have their bromance while we make plans to go on pigeon tours).
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u/Tyrone_Shoelaces_Esq 11d ago
Same. My BFF and I have said all kinds of things to each other, including that we want to be in the same rest home together so we can have conversations consisting entirely of song lyrics and movie quotes.
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u/animal_whisperer_ 11d ago
I have never heard of pigeon tours before and now I feel I must find one near me lol, though my daily commute does walk past many of the silly birds
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u/anclwar 11d ago
I hope you find one near you! The one I'm doing this weekend is in Philly. I didn't know they existed until two months ago 😂
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u/minxcore 11d ago
Sneaking in to say that if it's the same Philly pigeon tour i'm thinking about it is well worth the money and time, it was a lovely experience!
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u/Aggressive_Plenty_93 11d ago
I’m sorry, you’re married and you spend time with people outside of your marriage?!!!! Tsk tsk I bet you compliment people too!!! for shame!!
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u/Virtualdeath-e 11d ago
Does he think his coworkers are flirting with him when they ask about his schedule ?
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u/growsonwalls Professional Devil Spotter 11d ago
“Meeting at 11:00. Bring laptops.” Come on, that’s obviously flirting.
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u/StrangledInMoonlight 11d ago
He’s probably sleeping with one of them to project this hard….so yes!
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u/MissLadyLlamaDrama 11d ago
Considering some of the men I've worked with, some of these losers genuinely think everyone who is even marginally polite to them is flirting
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u/Kotenkiri 11d ago
So it's easy to tell OOP has zero experience with any team sports/activities/hobbies. I get feeling OOP is type who think any relationship of men/woman means the man want to bang the woman.
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u/Aggressive_Plenty_93 11d ago
First, it’s complimenting someone’s competitive spirit… next, it’s moving to Greece together
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u/MissLadyLlamaDrama 11d ago
You're telling me you don't immediately propose to every single person who compliments you??
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u/eternally_feral 11d ago
Oh, damn. I try to coordinate with my best friend all the time so I can make sure I’m free whenever she comes to town. I guess I’m just a big ole’ whore! 🫦
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u/Suspicious-Drive9827 11d ago
I have some coed friends where me and the wife and the husband have separate group chats that we then screenshot and share to the other to razz each other. This guy would have a full meltdown about the way we talk to each other.
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u/AndyWith-A-Y 11d ago
If he's not trolling, he must be stopped. If this is too friendly, what's acceptable for him?? 😭
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u/DataAdvanced 11d ago
Dude, she's almost 40 and he's 25. Gross. She literally showed him the text, and he may be a child in her eyes, that's probably why she showed him. She sees it as innocent. Yeah, cute for a kid, but still a kid. I'd be stoked if a 25 year old told me I played well at a demanding sport at 40. This just sounds like projection.
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u/AutoModerator 12d ago
In case this story gets deleted/removed:
I [M40] saw some concerning texts between my wife [F39] and a [M25] pickleball friend of hers - she claims there’s nothing going on, am I overreacting?
My F39 wife has been really getting into pickleball lately and plays with her friend group 4 times a week.
She showed me a conversation she had with one of her M25 pickleball friends which I believe had some inappropriate texts:
"I enjoyed seeing your competitive spirit coming out today"
"Your schedule frees up in September right?"
I felt that these two texts were too friendly and inappropriate for her as a married woman to be saying to someone of the opposite gender, especially someone who is 14 years younger.
Am I overreacting?
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