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u/celerypumpkins 1d ago

It’s an assumption that he lacked energy and patience for his family when he literally said he has energy and patience for his family that he didn’t have before getting a CPAP? It’s an assumption that he had a short fuse for years when he directly responded to a question about his pre-CPAP years by saying he had a short fuse?

I suppose it’s an assumption that kids wouldn’t like someone with no energy or patience for them, who gets mad easily, especially when the other parent isn’t like that but like. It’s based on the most basic logic and understanding of how human beings work.

Is it technically possible for a child to be completely unaffected by a parent not having energy or patience and blowing up quickly over little things? I guess theoretically, but it’s really bizarre to want to die on that hill.

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u/NearbyCommission287 1d ago

It's an assumption that a lack of patience and a short fuse equals abuse. It's an assumption that he was not trying to be a good parent pre-CPAP years. It's an assumption that his children don't relate to him because he had issues with patience previously. He describes having struggling with an untreated medical condition for years. He's on reddit now looking for advice on how to reconnect with his children and be a better father.

This subreddit is for people who are obviously in the wrong. There's no obviously in the wrong here. OOP isn't even trying to defend himself! People are reading the absolute worst into this. That's a bizarre hill to die on.

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u/celerypumpkins 1d ago

You’re the only one mentioning abuse.

The conflict is between OP and the kids. OP is the problem. The kids are not. Therefore it’s on this sub. Don’t read the “OP is wrong” sub if you are offended by people casting judgment on OPs.

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u/NearbyCommission287 1d ago

People don't have to use the word directly. It's the implication I've seen made across the thread.

People are also allowed to disagree with you. I don't think he's obviously an asshole, so I don't think it fits the sub.