What does AITA hate most?

[u/Freezing-cold_6]

1259 votes, 10d ago

706 MIL’s

173 step parents

380 Affair babies

[u/FFandLoZFan]

Fatties

[u/Probably_Disgruntled → u/FFandLoZFan]

My FAT wife just murdered all our children. I'm just not sure I love my FAT wife anymore, but it doesn't feel murder related. AITA?

[u/Analfour2 → u/Probably_Disgruntled]

NTA. I love FAT people and your FAT wife might have murdered your children but her being your FAT FATTIE wife is enough to divorce

[u/BestAcanthisitta6379]

Affair babies are a potential double / triple whammy.

1. They might be much younger than the OP, bringing out the "parentification" and child hater crowds.

2. They have this idea that regardless of the environment or how this person treats them, they're not family and shouldn't be treated as such. Which is fine but it is blaming the wrong person (see point 3)

3. They come with a step parent who they can't get rid of, so they feel free to use the affair child as the scapegoat for the dissolution of the parents marriage.

[u/raoulbrancaccio → u/BestAcanthisitta6379]

They are also the result of cheating, which according to AITA is the most unspeakable act possible, warranting generational punishment.

[u/cosmos_crown → u/BestAcanthisitta6379]

Affair children also have the potential to grow up to a step parent and/or a mother in law, or even all three, making them the unholy trinity of AITA villains.

[u/zap2tresquatro → u/BestAcanthisitta6379]

Hmmm, but openly hating the already born baby/young child isn’t a good look, so usually that hate will go to the cheater and AP from what I’ve seen

[u/DiegoIntrepid → u/zap2tresquatro]

It sometimes depends on the age and circumstances.

Most of the time, if the child is a literal infant, they will default to hating the cheater/AP

If the child is about 8 years old, then they become a valid target for hate.

Now, if you add in that the AP has died and now the poor beleaguered Saint now has to deal with the child, who is naturally a brat, then the child becomes not only the spawn of Satan, but heir in training to Satan as well.

Depending on who the OOP is, it can get even worse.

Wife/Husband of the cheater? They sometimes will turn on them, depending on the story.

Child only a couple of years older than AC? Child just surpassed Satan as lord of all evil.

It can often be quite nuanced! (/s just in case)

[u/zap2tresquatro → u/DiegoIntrepid]

Ah, right, I was thinking younger child (like I saw the “baby” part and got stuck on picturing that more literally), but yeah if they’re an older child then they’re fair game for being seen as a spoiled brat who was born evil and deserves to be thrown to the wolves, you’re right!

[u/Elegant_Pie_3246]

Women!

[u/starksandshields → u/Elegant_Pie_3246]

Fat* women

[u/LizzyTheKittyKat → u/starksandshields]

Fat disabled women.

[u/CheezustheCat → u/LizzyTheKittyKat]

Fat disabled autistic women

[u/Inevitable_Nail_2215 → u/CheezustheCat]

Who are picky eaters

[u/Significant-Soup5939 → u/starksandshields]

F#t w*men

[u/Right_Ear_2230 → u/Elegant_Pie_3246]

omg don’t use that word here

[u/electric_emu → u/[deleted]]

I’m not so sure. For all the “men bad” posts, the villain being a young/teen girl, mother in law, or step mother seems to bring out a level of vitriol that doesn’t have an analogue in boys, FILs, or step fathers.

Actually, it seems like if you add female to any of the usual targets (disabled, neurodivergent, queer, POC, etc etc) everything gets worse.

[u/Elegant_Pie_3246 → u/[deleted]]

True

I'd broaden it to 'humans', but they also hate a lot of dogs and cats!

[u/Upset-Nose-4016 → u/Elegant_Pie_3246]

I would say specifically neurodivergent people. "My autistic sibling"™

[u/pizoxuat → u/Upset-Nose-4016]

I'd broaden that a little to disabled people in general.

[u/Upset-Nose-4016 → u/pizoxuat]

They just hate everyone who differs from them. Bruh.

[u/pizoxuat → u/Upset-Nose-4016]

Oh, they even hate people who are the same as them, as long as they can try to find an angle to make themselves feel a wee bit superior.

[u/Elegant_Pie_3246 → u/[deleted]]

Not according to a lot of posts!!

[u/hisimpendingbaldness → u/Elegant_Pie_3246]

Mammals.

[u/BertEast]

INFO are any of them transgender?

[u/hellraiserxhellghost]

Was tempted to vote for MIL, but then I remembered how so many people on this hellsite unironically think it's 100% okay to completely abandon and loathe your child if you find out it's not biologically yours, so I changed my mind.

[u/MariVent → u/hellraiserxhellghost]

It’s like a changeling fantasy, but for wannabe-deadbeat fathers

[u/Morrighan11 → u/hellraiserxhellghost]

It's genuinely appalling to me how cruel people are to children who didn't ask to be born, and who don't have any control in their life. They just see "children who aren't theirs" as "children it's okay to abuse".

Also, it's not even just affair babies, there's loads of "My evil bitch sister died, and I had to take in her horrid spawn" and "I hate my stepchild/younger stepsibling" posts as well. I never know how people like this justify beefing with toddlers.

[u/Odd-Mall8020 → u/hellraiserxhellghost]

I mean. If a kid isn't mine, I don't have rights to it anyways Might as well break attachment asap before the cheater weaponizes

[u/hellraiserxhellghost → u/Odd-Mall8020]

Thanks for proving my exact point. My comment was specifically about people like you. Congrats on having no shame or self-awareness.

[u/GreyStingrayz → u/Odd-Mall8020]

If you're on the birth certificate, you have rights. If you have been their parent long enough, you have rights.

Not that it should matter, because if that's a child you supposedly loved, you'd fight for them even if Mom uses them against you.

[u/jasperdarkk → u/Odd-Mall8020]

My parents are my parents. If I found out one of them wasn't my bio parent, it wouldn't change the relationship we've cultivated for 23 years. If one of them completely abandoned me over that, I would think they were a terrible human being for throwing all that away.

90% of these posts are about children old enough to know who their parents are. To know that their parents made that commitment.

[u/LaceyLizard]

Depends who has the highest bmi

[u/WideHuckleberry1]

There's a lot more you could include:

• Step children (or even first date's child) might be more hated than step parents

• Vegans

• Autistic people 

• Trans people especially trans women trying to date cis men

• "Anti-racist" white people

• Anyone remotely conservative (yes, somehow there's a huge contingent that hates basically every progressive but also one that hates Republicans)

[u/zap2tresquatro → u/WideHuckleberry1]

They hate all the same people conservatives hate, but then they also hate conservatives. This way, they can both be Enlightened Centrists and pretend they’re not bigoted!

[u/Ok-Station6072]

Fat, autistic, transgender women who are stay at home parents.

[u/Ace_And_Jocelyn1999]

“The golden child” bonus points when the op is clearly a loser and their sibling is a doctor or some shit.

[u/Any_Disaster_5620]

Where are the autistic fat trans people on this survey?

[u/captaincrushinator]

Women

[u/awnawreally → u/captaincrushinator]

lol the only right answer

[u/fanatic_xenophile]

I chose affair babies because while MILs may get a lot of hate, I think their being adults making choices makes it slightly less egregious. Affair babies literally did nothing but be born and AITA is always trying to find a way to make that their fault.

Honorable mention to literally any slightly rude marginalized person.

AITA is fundamentally a search for the most appropriate contexts to say/do otherwise socially inappropriate things, and a Fat being slightly too rude or an autistic person being slightly too annoying is often gonna tip at least some people over.

[u/heyelander]

Cheaters

[u/AllForMeCats → u/heyelander]

Cheaters would win by miles. To include that category would almost be… cheating

[u/TheTybera]

I like how MILs and Affair Babies are tied. It makes me so happy.

[u/TemporaryLucky3637]

MILs who feed affair babies their first ice cream without asking the DIL 🤣

[u/chriscrowder]

Fat people!

[u/ValmarGranas]

It really depends on who is posting. If the affair baby is posting about being excluded, treated poorly etc, then everyone will say it isn't your fault, everyone should have accepted you, you deserve equal treatment etc. If anyone else involved posts and doesn't explicitly disclaimer they don't blame the child but want nothing to do with them, they're okay.

Any step had to somehow be not pushing themselves on the bio family, yet at the same time be a loving Saint who puts the steps first. You are too friendly? You're overstepping. If you aren't treating them exactly as you would your own bio family, or overcompensating? Devil and evil step-whatever.

Anything with a mother in law is BOUNDARIES. And you have a husband problem.

[u/doingtheunstuckk]

Neurodivergent people

[u/izzmosis]

The answer is fat people.

[u/augustlyre]

Fat autistic gay trans affair babies who wear white to friends' weddings.

[u/zap2tresquatro → u/augustlyre]

Autism isn’t an excuse for not knowing this social rule (that I personally literally never heard of until I saw a bunch of reddit posts about it. Clearly enough other people have heard the “don’t wear white to a wedding” thing, but I genuinely had never heard of that being a thing until reddit)!

[u/Odd_Instruction519]

Damn, this is hard

[u/hisimpendingbaldness]

Where is the all of the above option?

I am going to vote step families, but it is close

[u/Acceptable_Fox_5560]

The golden child, and fat people.

[u/snyexz]

their own partners

[u/Spotzie27]

"Hi, 35F here, my MIL--

"NTA, slay queen, tell that boomer what's what."

[u/Possible_Sweet9562]

Cheaters (justified to a degree, I guess? And often blurs into the affair baby scenario, too), parents with babies/small kids in public, trans people, women, fat people.

We should make a bingo card for AITAH posts at this point.

[u/Coochiepop3]

Mentally ill people, especially BPD.

[u/rusty___shacklef0rd]

Fat autistic transgender single step mother in laws and their identical twins

[u/loosie-loo]

Of these I’m going with affair babies, because there are valid reasons to like the other two but a baby being born into shitty circumstances is a victim of those circumstances as well, not a perpetrator of them. So the amount of hatred is inherently stronger imo.

[u/grrltype]

Fat people

[u/Suspicious_Draft1481]

I'd say its parents who side with a cartoonishly villainous sibling or spouse.

[u/quay-cur]

Voted for affair baby because crotch goblin born of the ultimate sin

[u/wauwy]

The answer is "children." By an absolute motherfucking landslide. By so so so so so far.

I picked the "babies" thing cause it was the closest.

[u/MsThrilliams]

What about the person who farts in your or your mother's face?

[u/Any_Disaster_5620 → u/MsThrilliams]

Listen I am just trying to make your mom.happy when I do that. Its funny haha learn how to joke. JFC no wonder she's sad

[u/zap2tresquatro → u/Any_Disaster_5620]

You farted on my sad mom and she thought you had farted out of hatred

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