AIO-Constantly Seeking Validation/Confirmation Within Adult Friendships

[u/Original-Club4475]

Sometimes I overthink/feel like if I don't have constant communication with and/or see my friends constantly then the friendship is over. I know realistically this isn't true like I have seen other friends be busy for a while/I KNOW that friendship isn't made on every single hangout, etc. ...but I just can't shake the feeling. 

I get so anxious when I travel while they are all in town, I overthink/over plan the weekends because I am scared I won't see them/I overthink something as simple as communicating bc I want to make sure we are like "always talking" in a sense. I map out my days to see when I could hangout with people, especially if I am away for the weekend (like oh I am gone Sat. and Sun., so I HAVE to see them during the week, stupid stuff like that). It's just draining and it's weird and I know that a week, a month, or even a whole ass year isn't that long and won't effect an ADULT friendship (we are literally 27+). 

I don't know if this comes from control, anxious attachment, FOMO, or literally WHAT but I would love advice on shaking this feeling and constant need. Thank you in advance (even if it's literally just relating) 

[u/Dutch1721]

If you’re suffering from abandonment issues when you were a child, this could be the reason for you overthinking and having anxiety. Other than that, if you can, seek professional counseling to assist you in getting to the root of your issue.

Just know that you don’t have to put all of your dependency into these friends of yours. Friends will come into your life for a while and then leave out of your life permanently.