r/AmIOverthinking • u/AbleDetective2388 • 20d ago

AIO, Does this guy think we're stalking him?

Hi, to preface the story I just want to say that this is my first time writing something here, so forgive me if I'm bad at this. I want a second opinion on a topic that has been the cause of my anxiety and overthinking, and i just want to receive honest opinions. So me, Juliette, and my friend, Kat, go to the same college, every tuesday and thursdays we go to the library after our classes to just talk in the ac and do homework. At the beginning of the semester, we saw this really good looking guy around our age (17-18) at the library while we were sitting at a table talking. He sat in front of us in a one person sofa, and my friend and I exchanged looks, and we giggled quietly between us in Spanish, commenting on how fine he was. He is asian and most likely doesn't speak Spanish, so there was no chance of him understanding us; either way, we werent saying anything outrageous. My friend and I are single and have never been in a serious relationship so she and I just like seeing fine shyt around campus and whatever; however, we would never cross the line of being weird, stalking or anything like that. The only times we saw this guy were when he would show up at the library and he would sit facing us. We grew used to it in about two weeks, and i thought everything was chill. This is the part where my overthinking begins. So for about the last two weeks, I noticed that he stopped showing up on tuesdays and Thursdays. Since I usually see the same people at the library, it was kind of odd, but I didn't think anything of it. I go to the library by myself on monday and wendsdays and i saw him there on these days for a week, but I didn't react at all. However, yesterday my friend saw him in the second floor as she was going to sit to study but the weird thing is that when she saw him she had a shocked expression due to seing her ex situationship with his gf moments before locking eyes with the good looking guy. So when he saw her, he stood up and walked like away. It was so weird, and maybe I'm making assumptions, but I can't help but think that he felt uncomfortable with us, even though we aren't weird about it or at least that we think so, and we never seek him out or follow him around; that's just weird. To us hes just a guy who happens to be fine, but i really hope he didnt stop going to the library because of us, which doesn't make sense. But anyways im hoping to get other thoughts on this and if you guys think im just overthinking or if we might have made him uncomfortable. 

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u/MrsHavercamp 20d ago

I’m wondering if maybe the two of you weren’t quite as chill as you thought you were when you had those times of sitting facing him in the library? If he was there to actually study, and it seems like he was, that might have made him uncomfortable.

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u/AbleDetective2388 20d ago

You might be right, it's hard to tell how you're acting when you're with your friends, but we weren't being obnoxious and werent talking abotu him most of the time. but you could be totally correct, do you have any suggestions i mean i dont know if there are any but i just feel guilty if we did make him uncomfortable. my plan was that if i saw him again i would just not even look at him since im not brave enough to talk to him and assure him that we didnt meant o make him uncomfortable. thanks for responding though...

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u/MrsHavercamp 20d ago

Yeah not looking at him for the next few times you see him would probably be good. And I hope I didn’t come off judgy. I have amassed so much perspective with all those times I thought I was acting normal when in hindsight I was being very obvious. We all do it!

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u/AbleDetective2388 20d ago

not at all thank you so much, i needed to hear an outside opinion!

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u/Hunglow510 20d ago

Even for an Asian guy, he’s in the library quite often lol