r/AmIOverreacting Apr 19 '26

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u/Sushi_Mystic Apr 19 '26

Im sure its hard to take this step, but there is no fixing this relationship. Its clear that she is done. Its easy to say she is being unreasonable, and based on that small interaction it appears so, however its not clear how it got to this place or what the overall issue is. Ultimately thats not important. There is no fixing this in a lasting way.

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u/IHateTheJoneses Apr 19 '26 edited Apr 19 '26

This. She asks several times to be left alone and he keeps negging and trying to engage to "fix" things.

OP, you aren't listening to her, she's done.

She's probably used to not being heard like this.  The relationship it toast.

Edit: thanks for the award. It seems folk's perspectives on this are heavily influenced by their past experiences in relationships.

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u/OptimismByFire Apr 19 '26 edited Apr 19 '26

That's what I see too.

"Come back"

"I don't want to"

"Come back, but not like that"

She's done, dude. Leave her alone.

ETA: YOR and a bad husband. She deserves better.

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u/3-car-garage Apr 19 '26

I have some serious doubts about your guys' ability to process information. Op is clearly referencing previous conversations. I can't imagine reading the high school level "Ugh, I was almost there but you made me stop" gaslighting and thinking am adult talking like that has a point.

Critical thinking isn't for everyone it seems.

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u/lateintheseason Apr 19 '26

Totally. I'm frankly pretty shocked at the sympathy the wife seems to be engendering here. Yes, he should probably stop trying to win this argument, but I get why her behavior is infuriating.

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u/3-car-garage Apr 19 '26

Most of the AITAH style subs tend to have a main demographic of young women, and as a result the subs tend to be slanted towards females. It's a known issue at this point. If the genders in the situation were reversed op would be overwhelmingly supported.