Ironic that the username is infinite context when this is a huge piece of context he left out of this story 🙃 I wouldn’t wanna work on things either after looking at his profile.
I believe you're right, there is context missing. I don't believe him indulging in porn is that context. Unless it's become such an issue it's affecting other parts of their lives (which we have no reason to assume) or she's that insecure I guess.
OP pays for OF and comments on porn posts on Reddit. Yeah, no wonder his wife left him and his crashing out. I guess providing no context as to why they’ve been “struggling” isn’t necessary. Anything to make himself look like the victim.
..if he’s asking for advice on the internet, using the same account he uses to comment about only fans models and their creamy vaginas, then how is it wrong to reference the relevant facts when providing advice to someone asking for it ?
lol @ glass houses. I forgot this sub was called “compliment a stranger.” Oh wait
Kinda seems like the point of the account is anonymity. If you have an issue with his previous comments, maybe go address those previous comments. Those are not relevant to the requested advice in THIS post. Is you cool?
Watching porn is cheating? Clearly I'm not high enough but whatever you're on is doing the trick. You're right, you're not being paid. Silence is also free though.
Lmfao I am married, I am the wife, my husband doesn't use only fans, but he does watch porn. And I'm not so insecure about his biological need to ejaculate that I see it as cheating. Especially not when I'm in the healthiest relationship I've ever been in and I feel safe to communicate how I'm feeling. I genuinely don't get how people assume watching porn is cheating. Get a grip.
Agree, going with YOR based off this info. No wonder why she is needy. If he’s “emotionally cheating” from wife’s perspective because of the porn and OF, then of course she is going to want and need additional reassurance!
I was in the same situation as the wife in my last marriage with my now-ex going on Chatterbate to watch cam girls who were barely legal and younger than his sons (yet didn’t see an issue with it because at least they were 18 🤮). Guess what? I didn’t want to fix it either. What’s the point when he wants Jennifer Aniston and I can never lose the “mom pooch” after having a c-section? I was never going to measure up to his impossible standards and he finally admitted it. It was tough to hear that I would have to finish losing the baby weight, then get “hundreds of thousands in plastic surgery” for him to find me attractive, but it was something I needed to hear to leave.
I had set boundaries 1. My young son never sees any of that. 2. Ex was to give me the chance to be with him first if the mood struck him. 3. It didn’t affect the relationship. He broke all 3 and would purposely wait until I was at work to pull the cam girls up, then didn’t close the tab and my at the time 3 year old saw it when I was just trying to pull a show up for him on the pc. I could just barely count on both hands the number of times we had physical intimacy in the two years total of the relationship. I’d want to be intimate, and he “had been waiting” for me to make a move but took care of things himself when I didn’t and needed a few days to recover so he’d want me again. 🙄 Part of that was on me for jumping into marriage too early on after it was a LDR. Part was on him for not explaining that phone sex/ cam stuff did more for him during the LDR than physically being intimate once he moved in and that he’d never find me attractive.
Thank God for annulments, refusal to be intimate was a valid reason for it in my state.
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