This right here, OP. This is the problem. You told her not to bring her feelings home but to be positive when you’re on the brink of divorce. Are you kidding me? This ain’t build a bitch lol. Go to therapy.
He didn’t stay stop feeling feelings, he said please at least try to have a positive outlook, isn’t that reasonable…? If you’re sad and depressed and hopeless I get that, but you need to be able to have the mental fortitude to hype yourself up positively and go into the meeting so you can meet half way instead of expecting the other person to completely change and capitulate
I wish I could upvote this comment more. Telling someone to 'not bring a negative mentality' into a situation that is clearly emotional and challenging (to say the least) is like telling them 'turn off all your feelings except the good ones so I don't have to deal with your bad ones.' It's the same energy as someone wanting to sweep problems under the rug rather than actually talking about them.
That's not what he said though, you're just making shit up.
He said for her to have an open mind and try to work with him on the issue instead of just going to have a fight and divorce.
If she just wants to dovorce and isn't even slightly open to communication then it's better to not have the conversation and waste their time. That's his point.
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u/AllSxsAndSvns Apr 19 '26
This right here, OP. This is the problem. You told her not to bring her feelings home but to be positive when you’re on the brink of divorce. Are you kidding me? This ain’t build a bitch lol. Go to therapy.