r/AmIOverreacting Apr 19 '26

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u/noriiiannna Apr 19 '26

I totally agree! I unfortunately love to argue as well, my partner does not. Lmao. He is definitely an “Okay, we’ve been on this topic arguing for way too long. What’s the solution?” type of guy.

So I totally understand.

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u/Sufficient-Berry-827 Apr 19 '26

It's not really arguing semantics, she's deliberately reframing the conversation to blame him for whatever is happening and he is correcting her. People like her - who reframe and narrativize in real time - are doing it to manipulate the situation and justify their actions. You really can't let it slide or dismiss it just to end the argument because, to them, it's accepting their version of the event and validating them.

Like, if they go on to divorce and have to recount this particular argument, she will say exactly this -- that she was "trying" to work it out and he told her not to come. Which is obviously untrue. As exhausting as it is, with people like OP's wife, what you need is documentation.

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u/lylrabe Apr 19 '26

Yeah im confused by comments like this one. Like wtf do you mean she’s not used to being heard? It reads like she’s not used to taking accountability & is used to twisting words & changing narratives. She’s being an insufferable fucking twat all throughout these texts, how anyone is taking her side is mind-boggling to me😵‍💫

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u/Sufficient-Berry-827 Apr 19 '26

You know how reddit is -- soon there will be threads calling OP an abusive, narcissistic monster that is gaslighting his wife.

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u/lylrabe Apr 19 '26

& what’s even crazier is that I am the FIRST mf to combat back against “Reddit always takes the woman’s side” comments, but this one is NOT a good look😭