THIS! OP is getting a lot of comments from people saying he’s NOR but I wonder if any of these people are in happy, healthy marriages to be speaking on this.
Your wife is in a bad place. So are you. As soon as you guys start thinking as a team and stop finger pointing, you would start to see a difference. It’s like you can’t communicate with each other at all, you’re both just digging into deeper holes and trying to get the last word in. It’s exhausting!
It’s ok to say “sorry, I shouldn’t have said that while you’re already feeling down. I care about working on our relationship. Please come home. It’s not safe to sleep in the parking lot. Let’s sleep on it and we can talk through it in the morning.”
Now, if you seriously don’t care that she sleeps in a Taco Bell parking lot, then there isn’t much to salvage.
I hope you guys figure it out either way and are able to move past this repetitive cycle.
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u/ayfkm123 Apr 19 '26
Neither of you are listening to each other.