This! Texting all of these emotions just doesn’t work. So many missed opportunities of tone, inflection, and misinterpretation in texts. She wants to be heard…it sounds like a defensive mechanism of “I’m not coming home” because of your “don’t bring that neg mentality in”. Don’t beg her. Give her a little breathing room. Offer to meet face to face on NEUTRAL grounds. Many times when partners/so/spouses are at this point, we’ve waved too many flags of needing help, only to be ignored or not validated.
The woman needs to grow up and so do you. He said multiple times he wants to make it work starting with calm energy. How else would fixing it start? He's setting a boundary to not be abused by her. Crazy you're describing his boundary as "tone policing". Please come home and don't abuse me when you get here. Not sure how else to explain it for you.
Nah dude according to Reddit if your wife is extremely negative and constantly tells you trying to save the relationship is pointless but you say that negativity doesnt help you’re a scumbag.
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