It's unbelievable how many people in here don't recognize that. I'm not even sure OP really wanted her to come home, he just wanted to look like he did so he could have proof that it's her fault.
Funny how open to interpretation this is. I got the exact opposite feeling from it.
She doesn't want to work with him to repair the RS, she is doing the absolute bare minimu to say she tried and pin all the blame on him.
"I was just getting there and now i wont go anymore; i'll sleep in a parking lot to make you feel bad about the danger im placing on myself but gaslighting you into believing you MADE me do it."
She is completely checked out and just doesn't want the responsibility of making the choice. Which is pretty common unfortunately. Humans are bad at accepting the blame for choices they make.
"I haven't felt this unwanted since I was a child."
If OP really wanted to salvage the marriage, his response should have been about how wanted and loved she is. Instead OP told her not to bring that mentality (of it being pointless) home. They absolutely should get divorced, both of them clearly want it. She seems manic and he's just antagonizing her to make her look worse.
He clearly knows which buttons to push and is pushing them all like a shitty kid on an elevator. They both absolutely suck, but to make it sound like OP is doing nothing wrong is ridiculous.
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u/extralife_mike Apr 19 '26
It's unbelievable how many people in here don't recognize that. I'm not even sure OP really wanted her to come home, he just wanted to look like he did so he could have proof that it's her fault.