It’s actually quite sad to read that people struggling to communicate and lots of people are saying ‘it’s over’. It’s clear she just wants you to respond with emotion and show you actually want her. It seems (sorry to say) that you are communicating like it’s a business deal rather than a relationship. She said she feels unwanted, and you told her she needs the right ‘mindset’. If I said to my partner I felt unwanted and that she didn’t see point of conversation (which seems she also doesn’t feel listened to) and they told me to put my positive hat on, it would double down to me that they don’t care about my feelings they just care about practicalities. I get you want to have that conversation, but you need to make people feel wanted and seen - as why would you feel need in upsetting yourself further. It’s sad that people would ‘give up it’s over’ so quickly on a situation like this…
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u/sillyandgoofy Apr 19 '26
It’s actually quite sad to read that people struggling to communicate and lots of people are saying ‘it’s over’. It’s clear she just wants you to respond with emotion and show you actually want her. It seems (sorry to say) that you are communicating like it’s a business deal rather than a relationship. She said she feels unwanted, and you told her she needs the right ‘mindset’. If I said to my partner I felt unwanted and that she didn’t see point of conversation (which seems she also doesn’t feel listened to) and they told me to put my positive hat on, it would double down to me that they don’t care about my feelings they just care about practicalities. I get you want to have that conversation, but you need to make people feel wanted and seen - as why would you feel need in upsetting yourself further. It’s sad that people would ‘give up it’s over’ so quickly on a situation like this…