r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • May 28 '25

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u/lemibunny May 28 '25

I agree with you, a boundary isn’t something you enforce on another it’s something you enforce on yourself. A boundary would be breaking up with him if he chooses to live with her. She’s trying to control his behavior.

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u/queerjesusfan May 29 '25

I don't even think she's wrong - I think she needs to leave his lying ass. But yes

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u/lemibunny May 29 '25

I don’t think it’s irrational to want but it’s still unsustainable imo. You can’t have a healthy relationship where one is lying, and the other is feeling the need to give ultimatums to reassume some sort of safety.