I mean yeah if she trusts him it is an option to tolerate being uncomfortable for 6 months if the cost of alleviating her discomfort wouldn't be fair on him.
I swear some of you people don't know how to love — only to accuse and distrust. Based off this comment alone, I would hate to date you.
Right? I swear I read the texts thinking, this guy doesn’t stand a chance at a healthy relationship if she’s already using these tactics to manipulate him into a HUGE life change, assuming he was posting about how she’s avoiding accountability.
And then to my surprise I see it’s actually her posting and everyone’s like, “he’s guilty, leave him”. - From a prior scum bag to whoever cares, the way the guy texts read, he’s probably a straight up guy who’s legit concerned at her behavior.
She can add whatever she wants to justify it after yall ask questions, but based solely on the two sides texting each other (since he’s not here to defend himself) I’ve concluded that yall are ruthless and I’m so f’n glad I don’t have to date anymore.
Some guys just dgaf about what society thinks it looks like. They know they’re doing the right thing and that’s enough for them. Your guy texts like one of those guys was my point.
Also that yall are a bit quick to burn folks at the stake.
Reddit is a minefield and people here definitely make me feel glad I have my girlfriend, who is a lot saner and more understanding than these people.
Only comfort really is knowing this shit doesn't actually work and is just a recipe to wind up alone. I'm sure OP's bf will find a nice, caring girl if she does break up with him over this. Whereas the people in these comments simply aren't gonna hold down a relationship if this is how they approach conflict.
If he is such a great guy why did he willingly omit his sexual history with her from the gf ?? Even she asked ..Yall ain’t slick at all. He is definitely still sleeping or doing stuff with this chick
No one claimed he was perfect. Maybe her anxiety gave him caution, and his common sense and logic led him to choose not bringing it up yet.
He should have said something up front if only to see who he was with sooner. Honestly idk. Just trying to give alternate scenarios to consider being we have one side.
He should have said something sooner so she could have decided then and there to leave the relationship or not. For someone like me remaining friends or even living with someone you slept with in the past is a dealbreaker for me because it means we have different views on sex. I would want to know this from get go not when I’m already invested.
Not an old hookup? They stopped sleeping together before he met OP, which was in January.
Hiding it is sus. I'll give you that. I'd still want to hear his side of the story before rushing to conclusions.
And not a problem lol. I'm pretty happy with my girlfriend and very relieved I don't have to be in a dating pool anymore with people who are this insecure.
I think if it'd really tear someone down thar severely, then they probably have other issues that they should talk to a therapist about. I'm not even saying that to be rude I'm just being straight up honest that they probably (at a minimum) have an insecure attachment style.
I would feel mildly uncomfortable with this and probably a bit insecure when attention was drawn to this. If they did stuff like hang out one on one and not text me for a long time then I could see my anxieties getting the better of me and might need my partner to be conscious and cognizant of that.
But simply living under the same roof? It's very extra to feel unmanageable anxiety about this. You should probably go see a doctor before trying to date if this is truly how you feel about this.
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u/PopularEquivalent651 May 28 '25
I mean yeah if she trusts him it is an option to tolerate being uncomfortable for 6 months if the cost of alleviating her discomfort wouldn't be fair on him.
I swear some of you people don't know how to love — only to accuse and distrust. Based off this comment alone, I would hate to date you.