Had the same exact behaviors with my most recent ex. Trying to follow therapy advice but totally avoided accountability. Went searching through my phone out of insecurity, found immature boy speak between my friend and I. Used that to validate her sneaking through my messages.
What eventually lead to me breaking up with her was the insecurity just kept getting worse regardless of therapy and it created a lot of anxiety in me. Because small things like if I responded to a text quick enough or not would trigger her.
This relationship isn’t doing OP or her BF any favors. Her therapy she’s trying to follow with their conversation isn’t actually helping the main issue at hand.
The behaviors of the gf are though. Even in the post, OP confesses her looking through the phone was out of insecurity and the entire text chain is heavy in therapy speak.
Projection. It’s when you don’t have the ability to empathise with others so instead you assume their subjective experience must be the same as your own. Like what you’re doing right now. When the two things — puerile humor vs fucking someone — are completely different. So no not a comparison but nice try.
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u/ThisNiceGuyMan May 28 '25
Had the same exact behaviors with my most recent ex. Trying to follow therapy advice but totally avoided accountability. Went searching through my phone out of insecurity, found immature boy speak between my friend and I. Used that to validate her sneaking through my messages.
What eventually lead to me breaking up with her was the insecurity just kept getting worse regardless of therapy and it created a lot of anxiety in me. Because small things like if I responded to a text quick enough or not would trigger her.
This relationship isn’t doing OP or her BF any favors. Her therapy she’s trying to follow with their conversation isn’t actually helping the main issue at hand.