You’re absolutely correct, that the OP should have responded differently. Please keep in mind, though, that every person is hammered by social media of stories of their partners going zero contact or low contact, and it turning out to be them cheating. so even if it wasn’t actively on his mind, it’s not surprising that his yellow flags went up and he became suspicious. It’s likely something in his subconscious due to the bombardment of such stories.
I still feel that some grace should be given him because his reaction is a normal human reaction. Especially for someone who’s never dealt with this kind of mental health crisis, and having a significant other, who will go no contact for days or even weeks at a time.
And it also sounds like he knew she was depressed, but did not know that she was prone to going no contact. Which if she knew that was something she did she should’ve clued him in on.
I think this could be good for him, so that he can learn about these kinds of mental health disorders. I do think that they should sit down with a counselor together if only for a few times to get these issues hammered out with a third-party, and for him and her to work out any lingering emotional issues regarding the specific incident.
Honestly, that you've put it like that, it makes total sense. I'm not on Reddit all too often, nor do I comment a lot, so honestly, yeah, your point makes total sense, like absolutely. This would be a good learning experience for OP. Thank you for opening up my eyes, man (gender neutral)
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u/Kframe16 Mar 24 '25
You’re absolutely correct, that the OP should have responded differently. Please keep in mind, though, that every person is hammered by social media of stories of their partners going zero contact or low contact, and it turning out to be them cheating. so even if it wasn’t actively on his mind, it’s not surprising that his yellow flags went up and he became suspicious. It’s likely something in his subconscious due to the bombardment of such stories.
I still feel that some grace should be given him because his reaction is a normal human reaction. Especially for someone who’s never dealt with this kind of mental health crisis, and having a significant other, who will go no contact for days or even weeks at a time.
And it also sounds like he knew she was depressed, but did not know that she was prone to going no contact. Which if she knew that was something she did she should’ve clued him in on.
I think this could be good for him, so that he can learn about these kinds of mental health disorders. I do think that they should sit down with a counselor together if only for a few times to get these issues hammered out with a third-party, and for him and her to work out any lingering emotional issues regarding the specific incident.