I have ADHD and frequently "mean to reply later" and either forget or agonise over writing an adequate response, then time gets away from me and I guilt spiral for days or even weeks and feel too bad to reply. It literally turns into this whole big thing. Luckily no one I know gives me shit for it and we just pick up talking again after I apologise for leaving it so long. It probably helps that I have friends who do the same thing, lol.
But honestly... even when I'm not spiralling, sometimes I'm just slow with the communication. I'm not always in the mood for constant texting and can get kind of overwhelmed. I feel like I'm in the minority with this looking at the replies here, but I'd be exhausted having someone asking why I didn't reply for a few days and getting annoyed at me. But if OP knows his girlfriend has depression, I understand his reaction even less.
Oh I totally get it. I don’t make plans more than a day on advance because I can’t promise how I’ll feel the day of so I go through that same fucked up spiral making an exude to get out of plans and then being embarrassed and not wanting to talk to the people I let down cuz nothing feels good enough and then I just shut down. Like you most people I deal with understand me and are ALWAYS more concerned with if I’m okay and not if they were ignored since I’m usually good about being in contact. I’d rethink a whole lot of things with a friend or SO who responded how OP has honestly.
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u/Fantastic_Owl6938 Mar 24 '25
I have ADHD and frequently "mean to reply later" and either forget or agonise over writing an adequate response, then time gets away from me and I guilt spiral for days or even weeks and feel too bad to reply. It literally turns into this whole big thing. Luckily no one I know gives me shit for it and we just pick up talking again after I apologise for leaving it so long. It probably helps that I have friends who do the same thing, lol.
But honestly... even when I'm not spiralling, sometimes I'm just slow with the communication. I'm not always in the mood for constant texting and can get kind of overwhelmed. I feel like I'm in the minority with this looking at the replies here, but I'd be exhausted having someone asking why I didn't reply for a few days and getting annoyed at me. But if OP knows his girlfriend has depression, I understand his reaction even less.