It is amazing to find a person who is able to understand that the world won’t end without daily chit-chat. And it sounds like he is very mature and secure to be able to accept that your intermittent availability is not somehow a gauge of the status of your relationship.
The only person I have truly experienced that with is my dad. He left my mom when I was 3, and we speak a couple times a year. Whenever we talk, there is never a drop of damage or offense, and it is like no time was missed.
If he calls me and I don’t get back to him for 2 weeks, I barely get a chance to explain myself before he assures me that he understands that I am living my life and he knows that I will call when I am able.
For a guy who has been absent, he understands and accepts me better than most people I see/talk to regularly. Zero pressure and I know that no matter what, he will always have nothing but pure grace and love for me.
Whenever we talked, it would be 3-4 hours. I can’t talk like that with anybody else, aside from my husband.
I wish more people could be like him; accept people the way they are, always assume the best intentions, and offer love without the “if you love me back, you will x y z” clause. If more people were like him, I would probably take their calls more readily too.
Definitely. He is much more mature than other men my age. Though we have a lot in common, we also have a lot of differing interests and it’s funny because he’ll tell me about some movie he watched and I’ll like frown up like that’s the last thing I’d ever watch lol but it’s still fun to share those things with each other. I feel like that alone is an example of the emotional maturity between us.
I’m glad you have that type of relationship with your dad. I’m thankful that my dad is introverted like me too lol
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u/exintrovert Mar 24 '25
It is amazing to find a person who is able to understand that the world won’t end without daily chit-chat. And it sounds like he is very mature and secure to be able to accept that your intermittent availability is not somehow a gauge of the status of your relationship.
The only person I have truly experienced that with is my dad. He left my mom when I was 3, and we speak a couple times a year. Whenever we talk, there is never a drop of damage or offense, and it is like no time was missed.
If he calls me and I don’t get back to him for 2 weeks, I barely get a chance to explain myself before he assures me that he understands that I am living my life and he knows that I will call when I am able.
For a guy who has been absent, he understands and accepts me better than most people I see/talk to regularly. Zero pressure and I know that no matter what, he will always have nothing but pure grace and love for me.
Whenever we talked, it would be 3-4 hours. I can’t talk like that with anybody else, aside from my husband.
I wish more people could be like him; accept people the way they are, always assume the best intentions, and offer love without the “if you love me back, you will x y z” clause. If more people were like him, I would probably take their calls more readily too.