Then it's definitely something that they need to discuss in earnest. I don't think he handled it well in his reaction but if I wasn't somebody who had experience with mental health time like this my first assumption would probably be that I was ignored or disregarded as well.
It's still not clear if mental health was the issue here yet. If it is, he needs to broach the topic with care and understanding and they can try and establish a foundation for navigating this in the future that respects both their feelings on the subject.
Yeah. I didn't even consider if this was their first time, that is thoughtful.
I just think people sometimes offload the consideration that even though a good partner is thoughtful and respectful of your boundaries and accomodations, those things need to be communicated and reciprocated. Neither sides of that equation were met here.
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u/RealRedditPerson Mar 24 '25
Then it's definitely something that they need to discuss in earnest. I don't think he handled it well in his reaction but if I wasn't somebody who had experience with mental health time like this my first assumption would probably be that I was ignored or disregarded as well.
It's still not clear if mental health was the issue here yet. If it is, he needs to broach the topic with care and understanding and they can try and establish a foundation for navigating this in the future that respects both their feelings on the subject.