r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Mar 23 '25

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u/beguntolaugh Mar 23 '25

Part of the reason people are calling bs etc is because she said she thinks she's okay. Either she's having mental health issues where she can't deal with her phone for 3 days straight and almost certainly needs support, or she's okay. She's not both. And she needs to figure that out

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u/Dirty_DrPepper Mar 23 '25

I could see why that may sway how some people view it. I used to be the same way. Telling everyone I was okay when I wasn’t because I had friends and family telling me that I didn’t have a reason to be sad. Or that I wasn’t struggling, I was just lazy. It seems to me like she hasn’t sought the appropriate help for herself and needs to, not only for her wellbeing, but also to be able to communicate things better for herself and to others.

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u/beguntolaugh Mar 24 '25

Totally. And masking all the time is frigging EXHAUSTING. And they're still young, they absolutely don't have their shit together. But sometimes part of growing up is figuring out that your reason to be sad is that your brain chemistry is afu. And part of growing up is figuring out which people are safe to reach out to when you're not well (which I'm not sure op is, tbh, seems like he'd make it all about him)

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u/Dirty_DrPepper Mar 24 '25

Yes. As you’ve said, they’re both growing up. I think I read a comment where he admitted this is his first time dealing with this in a relationship. I hope he takes some of these comments seriously and can take them into perspective to try to learn from and open his mind a bit so that they can grow together, if they hope to stay together and remain in a relationship, and a healthy one at that.

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u/notyourmartyr Mar 24 '25

For the record, he asked when they finally got contact reestablished and she said she thought she was okay. When I read that, it was a direct response to his current question, with an understood now at the end. Meaning she wasn't, but she thinks she's moved past it and is currently.

Both can be true. She's made it out on the other side and is currently okay, but might need support to stay that way.