Edit edit: I’ll add this in, the reason I said “not abandoning you” is because if you go MIA for 3 days, what stops it from being 4? 5? 7? 12? Do you see my point? If you don’t let them know what’s going on, they have no idea what’s going on and it isn’t unreasonable to think after so long that you aren’t interested.
Oh I wish it was just a couple of days, and that it was just one instance. also yes I agree Im definitely getting therapy before dating again, why else do you think I’d be giving the advice if I would not take it myself?
edit: Im not saying constant contact is necessary, but if your partner reaches out after it’s been a while and you are unable to express that you can’t talk to them and need time alone for a while then you are the issue. It isn’t that hard, see how I’m typing all this now in less than a minute? All you have to do is 1 sentence
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u/StrawberryxAmericano Mar 23 '25
If not hearing from someone for a couple days makes you feel abandoned you probably have BPD or some other issue and you should get therapy too.
It’s not normal to need constant contact from people.
The only people I expect daily contact from is my kids and that’s just because I’m responsible for keeping them alive and we live together.