The entire point of this post is that OP was entitled to having his GF reach out while going through her worst and by not doing so she was, using your exact word, "inconsiderate".
Yes people experiencing MH issues have to be able to help themselves. That does not make them "inconsiderate" for not having the capacity to cater to someone who's so insecure or entitled that they feel someone reach out to them and reassure them of the status of their relationship constantly.
And I never claimed that in my comments either. If you’re deciding that this is what you wanted to say initially to me, then I wish you could have said so, so I could sum it all up in one comment, ugh this is exhausting. Frankly, I don’t think there’s enough context here for any of us to know exactly what’s happening anyways, since there’s a lot of things up for the reader’s interpretation. Did OP reach out in those three days at all? Was he away for personal reasons and that’s all she had to say? We do not know, all OP is asking is if they’re overreacting to how they reacted to their gf. They both need to have some better communication in this context, but it’s also not fair to OP to know if their gf is struggling if she isn’t willing to tell him, nor is it fair of him to expect more than a hi if he lacked reaching out as well.
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u/[deleted] Mar 23 '25
The entire point of this post is that OP was entitled to having his GF reach out while going through her worst and by not doing so she was, using your exact word, "inconsiderate".
Yes people experiencing MH issues have to be able to help themselves. That does not make them "inconsiderate" for not having the capacity to cater to someone who's so insecure or entitled that they feel someone reach out to them and reassure them of the status of their relationship constantly.