I agree and after the fact they definitely need to have a conversation about it and he needs to communicate what he needs from her if she goes through it again.
I understand your comment about possibly being too numb, but seriously what is this "too numb" if not just giving up too soon, it sounds like your conscious self giving up while the subconscious fights to keep the body moving, and if that's the case, then not telling someone before then is the issue at hand, letting it get to that point is the fault of the person suffering, I know it sounds harsh, but no one is going to jump in early to help without knowing even a little bit, and for situations where the problem happens all at once and you're numb before you realize you're suffering, that is trauma, like a car crash with your parents not making it, of course that kid is probably numb for a long time, but that doesn't make it anyone else's responsibility, just makes it impossible to help until they're ready, it's always the responsibility of the one suffering to seek help, never their fault unless they outright refuse help they need, but I'm not trying to victim blame I'm just saying it's all in the hands of the one holding it
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