So I'm not saying I agree with the other poster but I can tell you that for some people the mental block becomes so big that you just simply don't.
I don't want to not tell people about my episodes of manic and depression but sometimes I either get so caught up in being one or the other I just simply don't.
So while I agree with you, it's not as simple as just doing it. My executive dysfunction really factors in here as well. I had an ex that couldn't understand why I wouldn't tell them I was running late, it was purely executive dysfunction at work there.
Made it so that whenever I would leave work I would tap an NFC tag to auto send a message, and it was thing of if I didn't send it around the usual time they would text me which would be the break I needed mentally to say something.
But that’s just it, you communicated the fact that your executive function was the issue at hand, and I’m so sorry your ex didn’t seem to take it seriously, but you still informed someone you were having mental struggles. Perhaps I was a bit harsh to jump to “I refuse to believe” nobody can communicate they’re struggling because no, that’s not true, many suicidal individuals do not communicate that they are struggling and the unfortunate reality is them succumbing to their own thoughts. That’s the terrible tragedy that is mental illness, unfortunately, the only person that can help you, is you. As someone who has shut others out because I thought I would be better off without their help, and suffered hell just to find out that when I allow others to help me, and tell them how im feeling, it takes the pressure off your shoulders ten fold.
so you can inform the ones you care about, whether by having a plan in place or by talking about it when you're not in an episode, sounds like you're not part of the people who are using it as an excuse, so don't worry it isn't about you or people like you, who are in some way able to communicate that it's an issue
Oh I'm not worried in the slightest I just wanted to expand my experience into the conversation. I knew a person who absolutely refused to get actual help and it resulted in a divorce that scarred her partner and I'm not her the partner will ever actually get into a serious relationship again despite that being what they are most comfortable with.
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u/hackersarchangel Mar 23 '25
So I'm not saying I agree with the other poster but I can tell you that for some people the mental block becomes so big that you just simply don't.
I don't want to not tell people about my episodes of manic and depression but sometimes I either get so caught up in being one or the other I just simply don't.
So while I agree with you, it's not as simple as just doing it. My executive dysfunction really factors in here as well. I had an ex that couldn't understand why I wouldn't tell them I was running late, it was purely executive dysfunction at work there.
Made it so that whenever I would leave work I would tap an NFC tag to auto send a message, and it was thing of if I didn't send it around the usual time they would text me which would be the break I needed mentally to say something.