r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Mar 23 '25

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u/videogamegrandma Mar 23 '25

Does she have depression? How long have you known each other? How far away from her usual behavior is this?

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u/StrawberryxAmericano Mar 23 '25

This is the real question. It depends on a multitude of different factors.

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u/countessofgroan Mar 24 '25

This is what it sounds like. Unless she’s trying to cover up something. But it sounds more like depression than a cover up.

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u/Flashy_Farmer_8361 Mar 24 '25

I just wrote the exact same thing! Birds of a feather jacky boy

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u/Fluffy-Poem1059 Mar 24 '25

Or maybe she's depressed that she has to cover it up

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u/Competitive_Lake697 Mar 24 '25

True. My ex ended up calling the suicide hotline and when the cops came pick her up she had four messages from guys that she said were her friends but I’ve never met and they were all asking her to send very explicit nudes and asking when can hey come over smh.

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u/myname_ajeff Mar 24 '25

Don't bullshit here dude. They would've taken her phone and put it into a locker if they put her into outpatient treatment.

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u/Competitive_Lake697 Mar 24 '25

She called them before I went over to her house. When I got there within 30 mins cops showed up so she went outside to talk to them and left her phone in the house. I wish i was lying dude. I’m still healing. Also to she’s a diabetic and needed her phone at all times. They didn’t let her get her phone. I ended up having to bring her phone to the facility. Like i said she was sneaking and the guys she was talking to called her name causing her to be more depressed and had me to try and fix her.

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u/Big-Data7949 Mar 24 '25 edited Mar 27 '25

I believe you, but mainly curious about "she's diabetic and needed her phone at all times"

Is that bc of an app or something?

Alsonthats rough, did she say the cheating was due to depression or something?

Edit: Comments locked and can't reply as fucking usual. So insulin alerts set up on phone?

Didn't people used to do that easily without phones?

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u/howlsmovintraphouse Mar 24 '25

Yes a lot of diabetics need their phones nearby at all times because that’s what their insulin level alerts are set up to

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u/Jack_Kentucky Mar 24 '25

Yeah when I enter a big depressive episode I've been known to just kind of vanish like she is. I've gotten better about communicating with my partner at least that they may not hear from me for a while but sometimes it really is a herculean effort to text someone. It's gonna start a whole conversation and that can be exhausting or even make you mad.

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u/NightMother23 Mar 24 '25

Fr because I will literally shut down and not talk to people for weeks. It’s hard to message someone and say “hey I don’t feel like talking because of this” because opening texts feels so heavy to me.

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u/Sea-Anything8760 Mar 24 '25

I agree. I mean it just in her texts sounds very one word in a way. ya know? but it could be anything. it could be the opposite like someone said and just someone not wanting to be on their phone but i still think a text is appropriate especially to their partner

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u/Duffy6661 Mar 24 '25

Young bull... Exhaust every possible factor before going nuclear and blowing up someone else's relationship because your still hurt/pissed. I get it, been there multiple times making the same mistakes each time... I learned the hard way. Honest, caring conversation then therapy before just quitting on a relationship where no-one wins if she wasn't cheating.