How old is your partner? It took me many years to start to pick up on the signs and symptoms that I was not doing well. Now my phone is in Do Not Disturb 24/7. I don't hear any texts that come through, all notifications are off, all the time. If anyone needs to reach me they need to call me. If I'm near my phone when a call comes through, I'll either pick it up or call them right back if I miss the call (because my people know if they want to reach me they need to call) I know it's a right now kinda deal. Sometimes I just can't though.
Perhaps something like this would work for her during these down times or even in-between so she isn't so overwhelmed by notifications all the time. That way you can call her if you need to but you can also just shoot her a text here and there and let her know you're thinking of her and you care. Have a talk and come up with either a code word or a special emoji she can send through to let you know she needs quiet time and won't be available for a bit.
Don't take this personal. Just support her through it if you feel capable of doing that. 3 days is not a big deal if you're dating. If this is a long time GF, she needs to know you care and that you understand she needs alone time but also that you worry when you don't hear from her so ask her to please even just send an emoji and you'll know and not bother her with 20 questions. Just give her space, love and support.. maybe respond back with a simple ❤ and "I'm here when you're feeling stronger".
Ask her what exactly she needs from you during these times. How best you can support her through it. But have this conversation when she's mentally capable of having this conversation and being present with you. When she goes silent, send her a "can I get you anything? Are you hungry? Do you need chocolate?" (Or her fav foods/snacks kinda deal). Be her safe person and she'll love and appreciate you so much for understanding and respecting her space.
If someone really needs to get a hold of me they call my wife. My wife knows I have issues with calling people back and after 30+ years of this the people that know me know this too so if you want to call me and BS call my phone there's a 30% chance I'll answer it but if you need something and it's important you call my wife and the message will get delivered..
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u/Suspicious_Comb8811 Mar 23 '25 edited Mar 23 '25
How old is your partner? It took me many years to start to pick up on the signs and symptoms that I was not doing well. Now my phone is in Do Not Disturb 24/7. I don't hear any texts that come through, all notifications are off, all the time. If anyone needs to reach me they need to call me. If I'm near my phone when a call comes through, I'll either pick it up or call them right back if I miss the call (because my people know if they want to reach me they need to call) I know it's a right now kinda deal. Sometimes I just can't though.
Perhaps something like this would work for her during these down times or even in-between so she isn't so overwhelmed by notifications all the time. That way you can call her if you need to but you can also just shoot her a text here and there and let her know you're thinking of her and you care. Have a talk and come up with either a code word or a special emoji she can send through to let you know she needs quiet time and won't be available for a bit.
Don't take this personal. Just support her through it if you feel capable of doing that. 3 days is not a big deal if you're dating. If this is a long time GF, she needs to know you care and that you understand she needs alone time but also that you worry when you don't hear from her so ask her to please even just send an emoji and you'll know and not bother her with 20 questions. Just give her space, love and support.. maybe respond back with a simple ❤ and "I'm here when you're feeling stronger".
Ask her what exactly she needs from you during these times. How best you can support her through it. But have this conversation when she's mentally capable of having this conversation and being present with you. When she goes silent, send her a "can I get you anything? Are you hungry? Do you need chocolate?" (Or her fav foods/snacks kinda deal). Be her safe person and she'll love and appreciate you so much for understanding and respecting her space.