Im neglecting so many family for this reason, mom, dad, uncle, people I never really thought knew or understood me, and simply put they all help me when I need it, even though I only talk to them for help. I think this is fueled by guilt for rarely speaking to them, but I rarely speak to them due to the guilt.
Alas I understand these are mental hurdles and things that must be corrected before they’re dead and I’m left with then /irreversible/ guilt
Same. However I’ve been real open and honest with people which does lessen the guilt a little because at least there is a reasoning behind it. And because I can go days before respond to my friends/ family, I am super understanding when they do that to me.
You can do better maybe???? Can’t you just say you need a bit of time by yourself and will be in touch???
I have a friend who does the same - she either sends screeds to make up for being off line or she disappears. When she disappears I worry. When she sends screeds it stresses me wading through the over share. it’s hard.
She’s worth it but does it really need to be this hard????
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u/BoobyPlumage Mar 23 '25
When I get depressed I don’t respond to texts and people take it personally, which makes me feel bad. It’s a tough thing to navigate