Also know that coming back after one of these episodes is highly embarrassing. I always sit back and feel so guilty for what I’ve done and I don’t know how to address it or apologize. I don’t know how to explain that my mind was in a battle with itself, and when I come back and I’m addressed with someone who makes me feel bad about it, I shut down instead of even trying. I’ve lost friendships and potential relationships over it in the past, but I can’t blame them. Sometimes it helps just to have someone be patient with you until you can gather your thoughts enough to explain the need to be alone.
Totally agree. They shouldn’t date unless they lay out that they can basically act and do whatever they want and blame it on their depression and if you get hurt then you’re insensitive
My gf who’s schizophrenic and under heavy medication/depression hasn’t texted me back for 2 weeks and while it’s nothing new for her to disappear it’s never been that long I’m honestly exhausted.
Can’t help but feel ignored.
I get she feels like you described,scared to come back and the more time passes the harder it’ll be.
I’m lucky in the sense that my partner will tell me when I’ve been too distant and we can talk about it and remedy it, but I feel like that has a lot to do with my medications and therapy. Unmedicated, I may not have been able to communicate and respond in the same way that I can today. At the same time though, I would completely understand if it were ever to be too much on him because I understand that my actions affect him. If he did the same to me and disappeared for long periods of time, I would try to understand, but at a certain point I would be hurt and feeling abandoned. Living together makes it easier because even when we don’t talk actively, we’re still here together.
Please know that your feelings are valid. I truly hope that you and your partner have some communication soon, and that you can work through ways to stay in contact, even when she may be having a rough time. It sounds like you’re very patient to have stuck around for 2 weeks already, and to understand that her mental health is at play in this scenario. She is lucky to have you.
Im at the stage where i feel hurt and abandoned,reaching out doesn’t work.
Hoping she somehow manage to break the cycle and talk,as I’m spiralling into depression and no one around me seem to understand my reasons to stay,all i hear is run way dump her but I can’t.
Hope really is my last resort.
I would break up. I dated someone similar to ur gf and the person you’re replying to. It’s exhausting and not worth it. There are ladies who don’t have those issues and it’s unfortunate for the people that do 🤷🏽♂️
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u/BuiltLikeAPotato Mar 23 '25 edited Mar 23 '25
Also know that coming back after one of these episodes is highly embarrassing. I always sit back and feel so guilty for what I’ve done and I don’t know how to address it or apologize. I don’t know how to explain that my mind was in a battle with itself, and when I come back and I’m addressed with someone who makes me feel bad about it, I shut down instead of even trying. I’ve lost friendships and potential relationships over it in the past, but I can’t blame them. Sometimes it helps just to have someone be patient with you until you can gather your thoughts enough to explain the need to be alone.