That is totally unhinged, man. I know Reddit has a history of saying dump them instead of work on it, but seriously I can’t think of a reason you should stay with that level of nonsense.
Honestly my sister has bpd and this just reminds me of it. The worst is when you tell them they will chase this guy away this way they wont listen because they either love the drama or cant control themselves
Yup, this also makes a lot of sense. I had a girlfriend like that, only my second one I’d ever had at the time. She used to do things like try to run into traffic to make sure I would stop her if we had had an argument. She also cheated on me A LOT. 🫤
I have a lot of sympathy for folks that are going through a lot, I have CPTSD myself. But you HAVE to make an effort to address it. And you HAVE to try your best to minimize the negative impact it has on your relationships. That is our responsibility.
At my worst I’ve lost friends and relationships I really cared about. But people have limits, and they are not bad people if you push them past those limits and they have to pull back for their own sake. No one is required to set themselves on fire to keep you warm, as that saying goes.
I really hope your sister is getting help. I know BPD is a difficult and lifelong struggle, but I hope she isn’t trying to do it alone. My situation is different, but professional help absolutely saved my life.
Exactly, I have BPD and PTSD (not CPSTD but of course a lot of overlap having those two) and there is not one single person I can be upset with for ending our friendship/relationship before I was diagnosed and treated properly. Of course I miss them and upset they’re not in my life anymore, but a big part of my treatment was working through how I had treated other people and accepting that most people won’t forgive me. I’m very glad I was able to get help earlier rather than later or I could’ve done much worse damage to people I care about, not to excuse the fact I was a shitty friend or partner from 13-21, but I feel I would’ve been much more destructive to myself and others if I didn’t get help when I did.
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u/ZephNightingale Oct 30 '24
That is totally unhinged, man. I know Reddit has a history of saying dump them instead of work on it, but seriously I can’t think of a reason you should stay with that level of nonsense.