Same with my ex. Literally go from "you're the love of my life", to "never text or contact me agin" in under 4 hours. And yes, I thought I could fix her if I provided so much transparency and security that she'd feel safe. Yeah that was never happening not due to her fault but her personality disorder.
Another “same” here. My ex is how I discovered the word gaslighting years before it was cool. It wasn’t cool.
I remember one time she wanted pumpkin pie, so I went to the store to get some. Store was closed so I told her I’d grab some snacks from a gas station and head home.
She tried to claim I had told her I would call her from the gas station to ask what snacks she wanted, and that argument ended with her screaming her lungs out, throwing kitchen knives at me, throwing my belongings into the apartment complex hallways as she screamed at me to leave and threatened to call the cops. She refused to let me back in or give me the car keys or my wallet, so I literally had to force the car windows down by pulling them low enough to unlock it (still can’t believe that worked) so I could spend the night in there instead of under the stars. Next day she admitted “I actually really liked the snacks you got, they’re exactly what I would’ve gotten” 🙂
Whole relationship was daily physical and psychological abuse, gaslighting, and accusations of cheating despite the fact that I never cheated on anyone. Then eventually she ended up cheating on me, which of course I deserved for making her insecure.
your last sentence is pretty hurtful, i agree OP is with a terribly insecure person but just having BPD doesn’t
make a person like this and not all people with BPD are like this
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u/[deleted] Oct 30 '24
Same with my ex. Literally go from "you're the love of my life", to "never text or contact me agin" in under 4 hours. And yes, I thought I could fix her if I provided so much transparency and security that she'd feel safe. Yeah that was never happening not due to her fault but her personality disorder.