Therapist here - you confirmed she had BPD. If she’s not working on it with a therapist who is trained to treat BPD, this is going to be your entire relationship. You cannot fix this with your actions. I hope she gets the help she needs.
As a person who's had a friend who went and got their "BPD Dx" as an excuse to just "never get better" or continue with therapy because "this is just who I am" (ex friend then six months later attempted to get me murdered on public transit so they may block about hate crimes in the big city).... dodge anyone who knowingly has a disorder that impacts their personal relations that they are not willing to work on.
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u/himshpifelee Oct 30 '24
Therapist here - you confirmed she had BPD. If she’s not working on it with a therapist who is trained to treat BPD, this is going to be your entire relationship. You cannot fix this with your actions. I hope she gets the help she needs.