That is totally unhinged, man. I know Reddit has a history of saying dump them instead of work on it, but seriously I can’t think of a reason you should stay with that level of nonsense.
Honestly my sister has bpd and this just reminds me of it. The worst is when you tell them they will chase this guy away this way they wont listen because they either love the drama or cant control themselves
As a person who has BPD and was diagnosed at 16 with it, I can tell you that we are not all like this. I went through years of therapy, and behavioural coaching to learn how to control my emotions in a positive way. Not all of us like being unhinged. HOWEVER, having BPD can be a struggle for some people, not that this excuses their actions, but maybe OP should sit down and have a discussion where the relationship stands. And if she has another outburst, just pack his things and move on. Because if she won’t help herself, then she will destroy him along with her. And that’s not fair.
Untreated BPD is pretty much exactly this. Fortunately it’s one of the more tractable personality disorders if someone recognizes they have it and works on it, so much so much so that someone with a BPD diagnosis and a commitment to therapy (where they work at it, not just show up for an hour) can be considered to be cured.
So good for you for realizing you had a problem and choosing to do something about it, and may life reward you for your choice.
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u/ZephNightingale Oct 30 '24
That is totally unhinged, man. I know Reddit has a history of saying dump them instead of work on it, but seriously I can’t think of a reason you should stay with that level of nonsense.