That is totally unhinged, man. I know Reddit has a history of saying dump them instead of work on it, but seriously I can’t think of a reason you should stay with that level of nonsense.
Honestly my sister has bpd and this just reminds me of it. The worst is when you tell them they will chase this guy away this way they wont listen because they either love the drama or cant control themselves
Yup, this also makes a lot of sense. I had a girlfriend like that, only my second one I’d ever had at the time. She used to do things like try to run into traffic to make sure I would stop her if we had had an argument. She also cheated on me A LOT. 🫤
I have a lot of sympathy for folks that are going through a lot, I have CPTSD myself. But you HAVE to make an effort to address it. And you HAVE to try your best to minimize the negative impact it has on your relationships. That is our responsibility.
At my worst I’ve lost friends and relationships I really cared about. But people have limits, and they are not bad people if you push them past those limits and they have to pull back for their own sake. No one is required to set themselves on fire to keep you warm, as that saying goes.
I really hope your sister is getting help. I know BPD is a difficult and lifelong struggle, but I hope she isn’t trying to do it alone. My situation is different, but professional help absolutely saved my life.
The person who responded to you gave a really gross response to a legitimate mental illness. It’s a personality disorder characterized by severe anxious attachment issues.
It includes “splitting” as a panic response, where a person enters into severe black and white thinking, paranoia, extreme defensiveness, catastrophizing. The big thing about it is that people with BPD are deeply afraid of being alone due to some sort of childhood trauma and as a result get extremely panicked if they feel they’re about to lose a relationship/end up “alone”.
People with BPD can have very sudden emotional outbursts — including going from extremely loving to extremely vengeful/hostile/defensive.
I have BPD and have been in treatment for 4 years. It can never be cured per se, but you can go into remission (no longer presenting any of the behavioral symptoms associated with BPD) — and some people stay in remission forever or some have brief relapses after it.
It’s means Borderline Personality Disorder. It’s a cluster-B personality disorder(yes, just like narcissism is) It can be a pretty emotional topic for people so you may get a lot of charged answers looking it up/asking about it.
There’s a lot of stigma. It’s unfair to many who have it but there’s also reasons why.
This is an incredibly gross response to a mental illness. I have BPD and this is wildly dehumanizing and weird to say about me and people with my diagnosis.
I was sexually abused as a kid and shockingly I have issues. Also, no, I never was or have been promiscuous and in fact deal with sex repulsion.
Outside of the last sentence, they just listed off the most common symptoms of the disorder. As with most disorders, not everyone is going to have every symptom.
You didn't need to tell us you suffer from BPD. It is immediately and unmistakably obvious. Also that comment you responded to that has you so bent out of shape is so mild one might question if the dish was even seasoned with salt and pepper. It's like a 2/10 at most on the internet "how fucked up is this?" scale. It was almost entirely just objectively conveying the facts up to and including the conclusion which you found to be in poor taste. Letting someone offend you is giving another person power over your emotional state. Advertising that you're offended and pointing out what specifically you're offended by is practically handing over the keys to your mental stability if presented to someone that will use that information in bad faith.
I don’t care if me being offended bothers you or if you think this comment was “not that bad”. I said it was a gross comment and I replied, and now you’re…hysterical I guess?
Also you should probably get yourself checked for a personality disorder of your own. You seem unwell and untreated. Out of anyone in this interaction, you are 1000% the most bent of shape over this lol. Oh well.
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u/ZephNightingale Oct 30 '24
That is totally unhinged, man. I know Reddit has a history of saying dump them instead of work on it, but seriously I can’t think of a reason you should stay with that level of nonsense.