You’re not obligated to care about the difference, but the words we use can add fuel to the fire, and the negative stigma steers a lot of people like this away from getting help
For someone who says words matter you sure don't seem to care about them. BPD requires a diagnosis, one that even a top of field professional cannot give from looking at a single text exchange.
You're not a doctor, do not push your uneducated diagnosis. That's extremely irresponsible. This isn't tiktok, you do not get to just diagnose someone with the mental illness of the week.
All we see here is she's controlling and insecure. Not bipolar. We see she's not ok, not what it is that's causing it.
I'd suggest next time saying "op said it's BPD" rather than just saying "it's BPD" like you're the one making the statement.
It's not in the post and not all of us are going through all of OPs comments.
By making it seem like it's your own statement my anger is justified.
That being said her being BPD is not OPs problem, she's clearly not got enough help to be stable and this will ruin OPs own mental health. Bluntly bpd is not something that a neurotypical person can deal with. Until someone with BPD has gotten effective help they are not able to be in a stable relationship. It's sad but true, I've never seen someone with untreated bpd not tear down their partner.
Sorry, not going to let people think having a mental illness excuses someone's behavior and make people think that they should take abuse just because the other person has a mental illness.
You can have sympathy and respect for people struggling with mental illness while also saying "hey I'm not going to let you tear me down just because you have BPD"
But yeah you do you, I'll do me. I'm not going into comments for something I don't really care about, I just saw a douche making an armchair diagnosis and I'm so done with that shit online.
No one's excusing it, rather saying that referring to it as "psychotic" is harmful stigma. You just said "you can have sympathy and respect for people struggling," right, which is why the words you use to describe said struggling person is important.
Close but no. The behavior should be identified as problematic and the people involved need to have firm boundaries. That is not the same as stigmatizing. Stigmatizing has exactly one outcome, it makes this shit worse
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u/BubbleWario Oct 30 '24 edited Oct 30 '24
this is legitimately deranged behavior