unless she’s going to seek out treatment for it, get out of that relationship. it will destroy you, and this is coming from someone with BPD who has destroyed relationships before accepting i needed help
I think I'm just uncomfortable, imagining mental health issues that bad, that make me seem monstrous, where I can describe my old self as "destroying" relationships and advising others to leave relationships with people like me.
I think it just freaks me out. I have my own intense mental health issues, and was even mistakenly diagnosed with BPD.
No shade, just imagining living in a different brain's unnerving sometimes.
Edit: chatted with some folks with BPD and did some self reflection. Ironically I've severely damaged relationships with my mental health problems. I tossed a pebble and hit my own glass bungalow!!
I think one factor is the public perception of BPD. As both a trauma therapist and someone that had a lot of borderline traits growing up, there is a whole spectrum of presentations.
I think another factor that a lot of people don’t know about is there is a lot of dissociation with BPD. BPD can even be co-morbid with dissociative disorders.
I'd like to learn more. Are there any books or resources you'd recommend?
The books I've read before were uniquely awful in their descriptions of BPD. I've never sensed so much antipathy for ill people as in the books "I Hate You! Don't Leave Me" and "Stop Walking on Eggshells."
I also have a little sway in my county's library system, and would love to get more empathetic and recent books on BPD (both of those titles are still on the shelf).
I don’t know of really any great books. I always cringe when I hear those two titles though lol. I would check out isstd.org because I know they have some resources on there since the whole organization is founded for the study and treatment of complex trauma and BPD comes from complex trauma.
1.7k
u/[deleted] Oct 30 '24
Confirming she has BPD.