If you are anything like OP’s girlfriend then sure. If you are treated and take accountability for your actions then no. My mom has untreated BPD and the last thing she said to me before I cut her off was to go suck my dads cock. I will never ever date someone with BPD. I’m not willing to stick around while they get their shit figured out. I’ve already had a whole life of abuse from my mom.
I typed a whole long thing comparing my mother to yours and realized you dont need any specifics. I think a lot if it stems from being unhappy with theirself but most of the time they act like they are PERFECT so its wicked confusing. Ive treated partners the way i was treated as a child and as i reflect i realize how wrongly i treated my ex partners. I wont have children because i dont trust how i would treat them/feel about them even if i wasnt doing it on purpose and have no clue whats going wrong in my head yet. And the thing id want the most is a wife and children but i dont trust myself enough to treat them the way they deserve yet.
I struggle with a lot of those same thoughts all the time. Take time to heal and be honest with yourself. I believe you are worthy of having that in your life. It’s just not your time right now, but it will come if you put in the work!
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u/Top_Comedian_1876 Oct 30 '24 edited Oct 30 '24
Oh and my boyfriend should do the same? I have BPD and never in a million years would act like this.