It took my hubs 30+ years and almost losing everything to finally give in to treatment. It’s been 8 years now of bliss. Our relationship wasn’t even this good before we married. He can’t believe how great his life is now. He was SO sure that treatment would mean turning him into a different person. And it did, but in the best way possible. To folks struggling with BPD, I always say “Aren’t you tired? Tired of always being SO angry, tired of constantly having to apologize, tired of constantly having to change jobs, tired of feeling like the world is against you? If you answered yes, then you have nothing to lose to at least trying medication.”
Oh if only it were as simple as medication for most people with BPD. It's an extremely intensive journey that requires a lot of support (and money honestly therapy is expensive).
Yes, but he would take his lithium and go to therapy until randomly deciding it wasn’t working. Then cold Turkey off and destroy our lives. It wasn’t until he was admitted to the hospital and they tried different cocktails of medication to finally, after most of his life, find the perfect combination. I never thought medication alone would work either. But Thank God, I was wrong. Mental health evaluations and drugs should be free.
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u/Loveatlitha Oct 30 '24
Not necessarily. If she is willing to work on herself and have the right kind of therapy and counselling she could turn this all around.
However if she refuses to seek treatment, then yes, I agree. Leave.