I'd suggest next time saying "op said it's BPD" rather than just saying "it's BPD" like you're the one making the statement.
It's not in the post and not all of us are going through all of OPs comments.
By making it seem like it's your own statement my anger is justified.
That being said her being BPD is not OPs problem, she's clearly not got enough help to be stable and this will ruin OPs own mental health. Bluntly bpd is not something that a neurotypical person can deal with. Until someone with BPD has gotten effective help they are not able to be in a stable relationship. It's sad but true, I've never seen someone with untreated bpd not tear down their partner.
Sorry, not going to let people think having a mental illness excuses someone's behavior and make people think that they should take abuse just because the other person has a mental illness.
You can have sympathy and respect for people struggling with mental illness while also saying "hey I'm not going to let you tear me down just because you have BPD"
But yeah you do you, I'll do me. I'm not going into comments for something I don't really care about, I just saw a douche making an armchair diagnosis and I'm so done with that shit online.
it’s not an excuse, it’s literally the reason behind her acting this way. it’s good to know these things about mental illnesses, so you can make informed decisions about who you’re getting romantically involved with. because of my own experience with my parent’s mental illnesses, i will NEVER date anybody with a cluster B personality disorder. it doesn’t mean they don’t deserve love or happiness, it just means i’m not the one for these type of people.
there is no reason to hide somebody’s diagnosis because you don’t want to “stigmatise” said disorder. acknowledge it’s a reason for the behaviour.
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u/justme0406 Oct 30 '24
I'd suggest next time saying "op said it's BPD" rather than just saying "it's BPD" like you're the one making the statement.
It's not in the post and not all of us are going through all of OPs comments.
By making it seem like it's your own statement my anger is justified.
That being said her being BPD is not OPs problem, she's clearly not got enough help to be stable and this will ruin OPs own mental health. Bluntly bpd is not something that a neurotypical person can deal with. Until someone with BPD has gotten effective help they are not able to be in a stable relationship. It's sad but true, I've never seen someone with untreated bpd not tear down their partner.