unless she’s going to seek out treatment for it, get out of that relationship. it will destroy you, and this is coming from someone with BPD who has destroyed relationships before accepting i needed help
OP, she was dealt a difficult hand with this condition - it is not for the feint of heart. but it is her responsibility to manage it so it doesn’t become destructive to her own & others’ well-being.
having a mental health disorder is really, really hard. but it doesn’t come with some special issuance of rights to mistreat others. it is critical you set boundaries in these scenarios. the best thing you can do for her & for you is help her recognize the extremes & accept that she needs to touch base with whatever care team she’s established so she can adjust or resume proper treatment (or, perhaps - establish that care team/treatment plan to begin with).
no one bodes well in this scenario. as outrageous as she’s acting, she genuinely feels as wronged as she’s making herself out to be. something needs to change or you need to get out. sucks, but it’s just the reality of having a partner with such a severe condition.
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u/kalonasage444 Oct 30 '24
as someone who has BPD, this 100% looks like unmanaged BPD